I’m writing this post at 5am. Not because I get up super early to work, but because I can’t sleep—partly because a three-year-old crawled over my head to get into my bed at 4am and partly because my mind is racing with thoughts. I’ve been thinking a lot lately about where this blog is going. And, after coming back from a workshop with a lot of other bloggers, I feel like I’ve gotten a little clarity. This blog is going nowhere—but in a good way. (I think.)
image: Lonny
All of the talk among blog “experts” these days seems to be that blogs are the jumping off point for something else. A blog is now just one part of your “brand”, and maybe not even that big of a part. . . I’ve also learned recently that bloggers aren’t necessarily calling themselves bloggers anymore, but brand influencers. Interesting. Somewhat true. Lofty. :)
As far as what should come next, I’m pretty sure it’s either writing a design book or coming up with a product line. I’m hearing capitalize, capitalize, capitalize. But, my heart is screaming is contentment, contentment, contentment–which doesn’t seem to be a very popular buzzword these days. I’m willing to bet that whether you write a blog, teach kids, run an office, or manage a household, that doing more is a message that you’re hearing, too. It’s the underlying theme in just about everything we read, hear and see.
But, what if you’re happy doing what you’re already doing? What if the desire to do more, to go on to the next big thing, just isn’t there? The world tells us that it’s just not enough. I’ve been having a hard time seeing it for what it is. While I’ve been thinking it’s a lack of motivation, I think it might actually be called happiness.
Only sometimes, that ugly monster called comparison pops his head up and asks if I am really happy being at home, cleaning up messes, making lunches and settling arguments instead of flying off somewhere fun or pursuing something grand. It’s really the idea of the dream that seems appealing. But, the reality of it. . . not so much. While I loathe making sandwiches in the early morning, I love that I’m the one making my kids lunches and getting them on and off the bus and helping them with homework—and even settling their fights. I love that I’m not chained to my computer unless I want to be—and sometimes, I do. (And, sometimes, I do not.) I love tucking my kids in at night and feeling their arms hug my neck. Even though it’s all just normal, totally unglamorous stuff, I love it way, way more than staying in hotels and always pursuing something and accolades from strangers who will ultimately never be all that impressed. Contentment with where you are doesn’t seem to be the norm, but it’s okay.
So, back to where this leaves my blog. . . The truth is, I still love it. I love putting up something new and fun for you to look at and think about. I love the art of creating a pretty post. I love sharing parts of our home—and life—with you. I love interacting with you. So, as long as that’s the case, I plan to press on, making the blog itself a happy place to visit. Instead of focusing outward, I’m scheming and dreaming up new things I can do for my site, while possibly wearing my pajamas and in between opening yogurt tubes and sticking straws in juice boxes. Thanks for those of you who have remained loyal readers through life (and blog) changes.
Do you struggle with feeling like contentment isn’t enough? Do you think it’s out of style to be happy with right where you are? I’d love to hear your thoughts.
I absolutely love this message! Partially, it’s selfish. I enjoy reading both of your blogs. I would be sad if they became an afterthought on the way to something grand. Mostly, it’s that I love hearing a voice other than the mainstream saying that grand isn’t always fun and that what makes you happy is wonderful.
I love this post! Being happy with where you are is the perfect place to be. I’ve read your blog for a long time and I can not think of another post that resonates like this one does!
AMEN!! to everything you just said. You said it so well and i really appreciate you, your happiness, contentment and drinking my coffee with your blog!! Thank you for not being the next book deal and product line up. I appreciate the reality and real life of you and your blog.
I too agree with your sentiments. I love to read your blog posts. The fact that you enjoy your home and family is not lost on your readers. Your blog is a pleasant change from a lot of what’s out there now.
It reminds me of the quote that comparison is the thief of joy (or contentment).
Keep on doing what you are doing. And please keep the Saturday Six coming! Love it.
Wow, Emily. Such truth and beauty in this post! You gave me chills. Thank you for being honest and vulnerable (and hitting publish).
I love your blog and have been a reader for quite a long time. I have to say, this might be my very favorite post of yours. As women I feel like we sometime are guilted by the world or ourselves to persue and do more and more. I love the honesty and appreciate the contentment in where you are. I’m knee deep in yogurt containers, diapers, room mom stuff, etc. Sometimes I compare myself to others, and it’s so unhealthy. I’m right where I want to be! :)
I’ve been reading your blog for years and this is one if my favorite posts!! I’ve gotten some of my best home decorating inspiration from you, and love that what drives your creativity and sharing is loving your life. Well done Emily, can’t wait to keep reading!
After pretending to be superwoman many years ago, I made a conscious effort to stop raising the bar. For me, that meant not aspiring to middle management, not traveling for work, working out several times a week, and setting a limit on running around for kid activities (I know, easy to say with 2 kids…). Anyway, flash forward and we’re all doing really well. Doing what feels right for you is a message I continue to pass on to my kids now, who are in their 20s. Good for you for being content with how things are, it really shows! Thank you for everything you share with us.
Love this! Thanks for sharing something so vulnerable. Time is fleeting and you’re so right saying that the other stuff mostly just looks exciting. I feel pulled in multiple directions and struggle with guilt over not meeting expectations….this is an encouragement to me! Thank you!
Please do not stop! You greet me each morning with your wonderful posts and have forever changed my style. You Impact lives each and every day both in your household and beyond.
That’s so refreshing to hear. I often feel like I’m being judged for being a stay at home mother, especially because my youngest child is a senior in high school this year. It could just be my own insecurities but I think people must wonder why I don’t just get a job already. I feel like it’s important to be home now, more than ever. And for the most part, I like being home with them and doing things for them.
Oh I think it’s long been out of fashion to be content. And sometimes I buy into it and busy myself only to realize that I in fact am already doing what I want, what God wants, what my family wants, and I’m right where I should be. Great thoughtful post Emily!
Your question settled something I was feeling too. I am in a good place, happy and content, and I hesitate to share that. I don’t want to come off as smug. Why is dissatisfaction easier to chat about?
I enjoy your blog as is! Love your point of view in both family life and design! When other bloggers start to capitalize, start dashing about in that fast-paced world, I usually lose my connection with them. I can’t relate to that. The kindred flame burns out. I would hate to lose you to that!
Lean into the contentment. I would love to see where that takes your blog.
Preach on! I left with a similar feeling like I should be fired up to work towards a book deal but I am happy with where I am too. I enjoy so much of the blogging world but if I tried to go for even a hair more I would be sacrificing time with my kids and family. And friends, And pointless HomeGoods wandering. And days spent watching reality tv instead of coming up with a new blog post. Yep, I am happy and content right here.
Oh, Emily–this post is lovely. I have a print hanging in my office that says “Choose Joy.” Joy is different for everyone, but if I’m following my joy, it’s a good day–a good life–for me and my family. Feeling comfortable with what makes you happy, what makes your heart sing, is one of the greatest gifts in life. How wonderful that you know what that is for you! I know it has made all the difference in my own life.
Very well said, as usual. I have to admit that many blogs these days, especially the more successful ones feel like commercials. I totally respect someone’s desire to fulfill her ambition, and “make hay while the sun shines” but when it’s too transparent I find myself clicking away. I love the blogs, like yours, which are mostly like a visit with a friendly, talented person. Of course this means that all these friendly, talented people must be willing to share their time and talent for free, which hardly seems fair or likely. Have you listened to the Jess Lively podcast with the Young House Love bloggers? I know they are now promoting a book, but it I still thought it was interesting.
Wow, Pam, I loved their podcast so much. It definitely made me think about why I’m doing what I’m doing. I love that they seem so happy in their “new” life.
Pam, what you wrote so resonates with me! I feel like some blogs have sadly become more like infomercials and that does not interest me at all (I’ve even stopped following a few). I enjoy having my cup of coffee in the morning and visiting my favorite blogs, like Emily’s, to see what they are up to—sort of like dropping by a friend’s house for coffee and inspiration. The occasional sponsored posts do not offend me ( I realize income has to come from somewhere). Emily, I’m also currently a happy stay-at-home mom and appreciate your honesty about finding joy and contentment in this honorable role. Although, I prefer to call myself a “work-at-home” mom, since “stay” is much too passive a word for what I/we do!
Beautifully said!!
I’m right there with you! I’m happy with where my blog is now and I have no lofty goals. I’ve always just taken each opportunity as it comes and tried to do what feels right for my family. My kiddos are my number one priority. Happy to hear I’m not the only one wondering if I’m doing this blogging thing right and if it’s ok to not shoot for the moon in terms of career goals if I’m happy with the way things are already!
we can’t do it all and more importantly we shouldn’t do it all! its life changing when you finally have that clarity! such a great post and i’m so so glad you wrote this at time when i was questioning it all myself.
Well I certainly don’t want to see this blog go away. :) The pressure to “evolve your brand” is ridiculous. There’s plenty to be said for sharing your voice, your passion and the work you’re doing to your house. That’s what I come here for. Keep up the good work, chica.
God bless you for your perspective. You are a great encouragement (and have amazing taste)! I read your blog often and I so enjoy what you share about your self, home and style.
I needed to hear this! I struggle with this too….always feeling like I need to be doing more. I loved the part about not trying to please/impress strangers. People are so hard to please, so I need to quit trying and just love my family because they will be the ones to remember the things I do, not everyone else! I’m so glad you are continuing your blog. I love your home and your message.
You have such a way with words – truly a gift! Thank you Emily! Here’s to contentment.
I love reading your blog and I loved this message. I am a stay at home mom of one, who is a middle schooler, and I’m sure some people wonder why I haven’t gone back to work. Somedays I wonder myself as I am doing endless loads of laundry and driving back and forth to school and soccer practices. But honestly I am glad to be the one home and helping with homework and getting to talk about what is going on at school. These years are so fleeting and I know I won’t regret putting this time in.
I NEVER comment. (I HAVE entered a give away or two.) I don’t have a twitter account, instagram or even a facebook page. But, I love this blog. It is the 1st one I go to in the morning. To me, it is just the right formula. I was fearful you were going to announce you were “going in a different direction” when I began reading your post. Thankfully, you posted just what I wanted, and needed, to hear. You brought a tear to my eye about contentment. Just perfect. Thank you.
I am happy that you still enjoy writing your blog because I really look forward to reading it! As a stay at home mom of three young children, I really identify with your life. I love your message. If short on time, I always choose your blog to read first.
AMEN! and i can see by the comments you struck a chord as well. and this is why i love you- you are authentic and real. i am only sad i didn’t get to meet you for real this weekend- julia told me she just adored you! i was in vegas for my anniversary…. choosing contentment i suppose you could say. ;)
anyhow, i just loved this post and appreciate you sharing and putting into words what i often think but not as eloquently.
Good for you! Hope you all had a great trip.
Thank you for making your blog a happy place. Whenever I check in, I am always refreshed by your posts – pretty things to look at, good ideas, and sometimes fun things about life with five kiddos when you just keep it real. :) Decompression is why I read blogs; they’re like a magazine at the end of the day. Thanks also for your words about contentment. I fight that battle often between being happy ‘just’ doing what I’m doing and the desire to ‘be’ (or look like I am) more. Have a happy day!
I hear you Emily! While I’m not a blogger, I think this trend of constantly looking to the next thing is the exact reason happiness can be elusive. Thanks for the reminder to be content with the here and now, including the diapers, sandwich making, bickering referee, etc:)
The reason I religiously read your blog–and recommend it to my friends and clients–is because it’s so relatable. It’s so refreshing to see that just like me, you’re pulled in 46 not-so-fabulous directions but still find the time and energy to “pretty up” your part of the world. I read your blog and feel like, “yes, I can do that (right after I flip the laundry and wipe her nose)!” Maybe it’s because I don’t strive to be a big name designer, preferring to help friends who are like me–on trend but on a budget–that I find such a connection with this post. Just keep on keeping on–you’ve got lots of fans!
You’re so awesome! Thanks for modeling contentment. It’s such an important life skills, and you’re right—it’s definitely not the trendiest attitude. ;)
Refreshing post Emily! Thanks so much.
Emily, so glad you published this post! Yes! I’m content and I think people don’t believe me when I tell them I’m happy right where I am! I do feel it’s out of style to be happy where you are right now!
Bethann :)
Go with contentment. I ve followed many blogs over many years and there seems to be a life cycle. Start simple, get more commercial , become more and more like an advert for lots of sponsors , over stretch themselves , burn out ,stop the blog . Don t go in THAT direction!
As a mom of two young boys and a small business owner (let’s just say very small), this post really resonated with me! I’m relatively new to your blog but it is one of very few that I read regularly. I think that’s partly due to the fact that you truly have lovely style, but more important is the fact that you and your posts seem genuine rather than contrived pieces written in an effort just to hit “publish.” Your contentment is part of what makes your blog stand out from the others. I started my business as a way to stay home with my children with the intention of never having to say I wish I could have been there for this or that. Comparison does creep in at times but snuggling on the couch reading books together, going to the beach, hiking, or just the daily activities-any way in which I spend time with my children will never be a regret. There’s peace in that.
Wow, Emily! I love this post so much and I am definitely not alone, from the above comments!! I loved what you said about just loving the ‘idea’ of something more grand. I couldn’t agree with you more. When it comes down to it, I also choose time spent with my kids. And when I am missing that time, reality sets in that that’s where I want to be. I will always love and appreciate your candid, truthful writing. That is why we always come back for more!! :)
Wow… This is so timely! I just posted my first blog post today in over a month – basically because I became “happy.” I became happy with hanging out with friends at the last minute, going to bed on time, working out, keeping my house clean, etc instead of always spending my free time (outside of my full-time job) on the computer blogging. I love blogging, but it’s hard not to fall into the pressure of evolving like you said. So I have chosen to just be and blog when my heart is content with doing so. I adore you for your honesty. Thanks for sharing!
To quote Mary Poppins, “You are practically perfect in every way.” There are many blogs that I once read faithfully but then they became one long stream of infomercials. I can get that when I have insomnia at 3 am. So here’s to happiness in what ever size, shape or form it comes in. .
so so true! I am struggling with a similar situation– am I being lazy? Unmotivated? This post really resonated.
i love this post! I have two children who both just started school and am feeling the pressure to work more or accomplish more. However, I am happy where I am. This is the first time in years that I haven’t been frazzled 24/7 and it makes me happy. Thanks for reinforcing that!
I think about this frequently – my kids are 3.8 and 9 – do I want to do what it takes to get to the next level professionally? Not really. I’m thrilled that I have my dream job and can be there for my children.
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This is why your blog is a favorite of mine.
I love your blog as is! It is the first one I read every day! Happy!
I love this post! Although bloggers definitely have the right to walk through whatever doors blogging opens for them, as a reader I don’t love the feeling that there’s always something bigger going on behind the scenes, something they can’t talk about just yet, something they’re gonna try to get me to buy. ;) I appreciate that your writing is easy to connect with and your style is timeless. And more than anything, I love that your family comes first. As long as you’re blogging, I’ll be reading!
Funny, when I read the title I thought to myself (before reading it), “I think it’s unpopular to be happy and live more simply. I think it’s very popular to shout happiness from the rooftops, while also complaining of how busy you are”. And essentially you nailed exactly the same thought! For a while there I thought I wasn’t living up to my “potential” and could always be doing more. Ironically the busier I became, the more unhappy I became. As I get older, and learn to cut more out I am only more happy!
Thanks for this post Emily! So nice to here others in the design community sharing the same feelings.
Emily, I LOVE this post!! Thanks for being so transparent! You are hands down, my favorite blogger…..the one I come to first every day, and I know it has to do with your transparency, and that you’re not trying to be something that you’re not. If you love blogging, keep true to yourself and blog about what YOU want to blog about – not what you think your readers want you to blog about.
And I love blogs, for just that……..being a blog. I feel like once bloggers become authors, or go on to “other” things, when their blog is just a tiny part of their voice, then for me, it looses the appeal, of “oh they’re just a mom like me, trying to make day-to-day life with kids work, while wanting to make their house a home.” :-) I want to read about you keeping it real in your home!
I love what you said: ” While I’ve been thinking it’s a lack of motivation, I think it might actually be called happiness.”
Thanks for this reminder. And thank you for your blog, it is my absolute favorite.
This post hit me right between the eyes! I’ve wondered if I am a lazy person, a scared person or what that I don’t push boundaries. Are we all supposed to be constantly looking or doing the next great thing? My friends keep asking me why I don’t become a professional interior decorator, because they think my home is welcoming. The thing is, I love to help people but I like doing it for free. Decorating is my hobby and I love when people ask me to help them with their homes but their joy is the only payment I need. Is that wrong? When did everything become about money? I love your blog and your contentment shines through in your words.
Yes, and I can tell you from experience that a love for decorating isn’t the same as a love for running a decorating business. That’s why I may never go back!
I am right there with you friend. It takes courage to stand up for what is right for yourself and your family. It takes courage and a strong will to be authentically who God calls you to be in this world that’s always pushing for more. I always think about the saying that it’s better to do one thing and do it really well, than it is to do a thousand things halfway. You know I don’t blog, but if I had a dime for every time someone suggested that I make my sewing bigger than it is, I would be a rich rich girl. I have never tried to “manufacture” my little sewn items because of the very point that you make in your post here. What I do and how I do it on my small scale makes me happy. I am fine with my sewing being my “glorified hobby” where I make some “mad money” on the side. It is my creative outlet to complement my main job, THAT I HAVE CHOSEN, of wife and mother. You are so right though that we have to sometimes fight that message of “more is better”. I just bought the newest Young House Love book and listened to their podcast about why they took the year off from blogging. I was impressed with their choices for their family and for balance. I often look at bloggers and sewists who have a million irons in the fire and wonder “how?”, when I’m doing good to remember to brush my teeth some days. I’ll stick to simple and happy over here. I’m a really terrible multi-tasker so more wouldn’t work out for me anyway. ;)
What a great post! I’m probably one of your older readers, an almost empty nester, but I love reading your blog! I have often felt the same way, but I don’t regret being home with my kids
Your blog gives me so much inspiration. I love how you just jump into a project and make it happen. You remind me of my younger self. I enjoy hearing a younger mom’s perspective too. I think you are already successful in everything you do.
I completely agree with everything you said, Emily. It’s the same way in corporate America too. It’s like if you’re not advancing and constantly taking on more then you’re somehow going backwards. I loved your blog 5 years ago and I still love it today.
Love this post so much! I am so glad you shared it today. Your blog and Instagram always make me smile and I hope you will continue doing what you are doing because you are making a difference!
I love your blog……just the way it is. I know you are a woman of faith…..and I love that too! God wants us to be happy with what He has blessed us with….and where He has placed us. Contentment is a wonderful place to be. Enjoy those babies. Mine are grown and it happened fast.
Beautifully said! Definitely need to follow your heart and if your happy then what better than to actually be satisfied. Isn’t that what everyone strives for? Personally I can tell the blogs that are out to create a brand and the ones that do it out of joy. Follow your heart. :)
I LOVE LOVE LOVE this message and your blog!! I would be so upset if you stopped. You are real and inspiring and your stories are definitely entertaining! Keep up your awesome work!! :)
This really resonated with me as well, especially when you say that where you may feel you have a lack of motivation, you actually have happiness! There is a constant push to do more and be more, to the extent that I’m left feeling guilty for being content. So thank-you.
Dear Emily,
I’ve never commented here before but have been reading your blog and silently admiring you for a while now. I am pregnant with my first child and just wanted to say thank you for writing your blogs at all. Most people (99 out of 100) tell me about the hardships of motherhood to come, about exhaustion and how my life will basically be over – even though I have the feeling it’s only just beginning. Only one mother has told me how having her kids changed her life for the better.
So thank you – for showing me that having children and being a mom truly does mean happiness (which is very different from perfect bliss).
You and your blog truly are one of a kind and I look forward ro reading it every day.
All the best from Germany!
I will tell you that you’re in for one of the most amazing blessings to come. Hard, yes–but in a wonderful way. You’re going to be amazed at how much you’ll love that little babe :)
I LOVE your blog, Emily! And I can also relate to that tugging thought that I should be doing more than I am, but realizing that I am happy with my life exactly as it is. Thank you for articulating it so well, and making me realize that I don’t want to do anything because it’s what the world says I “should” do.
Thank you so much for this today!! I’ve been a follower for quite a while now and I think this is my favorite post to date! LOVE!!!
Gracious, I loved this so much. So encouraging and affirming. It really devalues all of the glorious things God provides us (like those nighttime hugs and simple to-dos) when our mentality is “onto the next.” Aren’t we meant to SAVOR?! This was really refreshing… thank you for sharing!!
Hi Emily,
This was a great post and so glad to read through all the comments. I’ve been a SAHM for 13 years, taking care of my two kids and running a small vintage furniture upholstery business. It’s always a struggle to manage the busy household, work projects and still feel like you should be striving for more. I applaud your transparency and willingness to embrace that this phase in your life is enough. It gives me inspiration and hope seeing a community of women who support and encourage one another as we each travel on the path that is “right” for us.
I have followed your blog for several years but never left a comment. I LOVE this post and your honesty. I left a law practice to stay home with my 2 children. While I am formulating my next step back into some sort of work, I know in my heart it has to be flexible enough so that I can still be the person who makes their lunches, picks them up in carpool and takes them to extracurriculars. Even though it is sometimes a drudgery, I wouldn’t let anyone else do it for me. So what I do next may not be big or glamorous. Perhaps it is because I am an “older” Mom ( at 43 with kids age 7 and 3) but I feel Ok with that. Thinking of pushing myself for something different doesn’t even sound “fun.” I know later in life that personally I would regret spending my time pursuing “more” rather than being present with them.
I really enjoyed this post. It resonates with me because I am at the same point at my workplace. All around me people are moving up and on and here sit content to just do what I do. I have no desire for bigger and better things…mostly because with that comes bigger and more complex responsibilities. I don’t need a longer title or a bigger paycheck to prove to anyone – especially myself – that I matter and am making a valuable contribution already.
Listen to yourself and family and continue to be content and happy. That has a value that has no price tag.
I love reading this blog everyday, but I’m extra excited on Saturday morning to sit down with my coffee and read the Saturday 6! Not many other blogs have a Saturday post! Please don’t change…I have copied more of your ideas than any other!!! Such an inspiring decorator and mother!!
Good Morning
I’m probably one of the “older” or “mature” readers of your blog.
I have to say I totally love it. I admire what you do and your creativity.
Our society seems to expect more of everything and it’s not satisfied unless everyone is running around ragged. I have 3 grown children (3 girls and the “last” two were twins). I think what you do with 5 little ones is amazing. I left the corporate world to raise these babies and looking back I truly don’t regret anything. If you are happy where you are and content – relish the moments you have and enjoy life.
Kitty
You are right, Emily. Blogs are going by the wayside as people pursue bigger and better opportunities. That’s fine, but I like reading blogs, and they seem to be disappearing. So, yes. Be happy and settle into your blog. Make it what you want it to be without feeling pressured to morph it into something huge and lucrative. My favorite posts are the insightful ones and the ones where you talk about your family. I love a good decorating before-and-after as much as the next girl, but I can get that all over the place. Sometimes I call it house porn. I know… that sounds really bad, but I think looking at loads of pictures of beautiful houses just feeds the comparison monster. When we get to know the people who live in the beautiful houses, we gain much more of an appreciation for the work and heart that went into making them pretty. Anyway, I kind-of went off on a tangent there. All that to say, Yes. I agree with you. :)
Thank you for this post, Emily. I love your blog and your ability to relate to so many. I’m 66 and retired and our children are grown but still enjoy all that you share with us here. Our son and his wife have six kiddoes so I also enjoy seeing more into the life of a busy, larger family. I appreciate that it is so joyful, just like it is for our son’s family (and for us to love, too)!
One of my “life verses” is Philippians 411: “For I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances”. That chapter is full of meaningful verses for me, speaking of my true needs (not wants so much) being met by the Lord. So, you are right, Contentment is to be cherished. Thank you again…..from one of your oldest readers (but young at heart). :)
Fabulous post and message! I sometimes feel like I’m being criticized for being happy where I am–that I’m lazy for not striving for more. And I’m not lazy. I’ve accomplished a lot, and I love my life–my home, my job, my family. I strived long and hard for these things, and now that I have them, I’m not going to waste them by incessantly striving for more.
As to you, thank you for staying a blogger. I think some of the others have lost themselves in that constant striving for more… I love your site, and your insight. It is inspiring.
Exactly! I’m at the point in my life where I’m happy doing a design project when and if it comes along, writing my blog, and just enjoying this new phase in my life…..empty nest! It is an exciting and yes HAPPY time in my life and I intend to embrace it whole heartedly because life has a funny way of throwing us curve balls! Embrace happiness!
It’s funny because when I’m wrestling or even struggling with questions like these most, you seem to post what I need to hear. A validation that there are like-minded people out there wearing similar shoes, if you will. I’ve blogged on and off for several years but inconsistently, I think because these very questions bog me down. The last few days I’ve been thinking about my path and how perhaps I need stillness. And at the end of the day, I love to write and be the one who walks my kids to school in the morning. They still want me around and perhaps this is a great avenue to just enjoy that and not worry about picking up clients and having so much of a plan. Thanks for being such a grounding influence in Blogland. I truly look forward to your posts so much.
I love your blog. I too struggle with feeling like I should want more but I’m happy where I am. Keep bringing joy to this little part of the internet.
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!! I’ve been struggling with this same issue myself – I’m not a blogger but you just described exactly what I’ve been trying to figure out! Love your blog.
I’ve been thinking about the same thing lately. I blog when I have time, and whenever I write a new post I’m bothered by the thought that I should be writing more often. I worry that my content isn’t good enough because I’m not posting fashion roundups or creating a collage of products with links to where people can buy them. I’m not posting selfies and grand vacation pictures! It seems like that’s all the Internet cares about these days. Like you said, the push to brand yourself and create some fabulous online personality is overwhelming. I’ve been thinking lately of the saying, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” It’s true. I feel like I need to stop comparing myself to everyone and be happy with what I’m doing. It’s OK not be a walking brand (or brand influencer!).
And this is why you’re my favorite. I’ve read your blog for years and hope to for many years to come!
You are a very wise woman!! You are in a busy season of your life and your work as a stay at home mother is sacred work!! God is blessing you with happiness and contentment. You’ll know if He wants you to pursue more. I love you blog. :)
I love this post. So glad you are still happy doing just what you do because I am very happy reading it.
Everything you just said is why I love reading your blog!
So well said, Emily! One of the reasons your blog is one of my favorites is because of your authenticity. And amen on the contentment front! Like the Bible says, Godliness + contentment is great gain. I try to remind myself of that often. It’s hard to remember in this world we live in. Thank you for continuing to share your heart!
It’s good to hear you say that you’re content with where you are right now. I have been a blog reader for years, and have thought a lot about starting my own. One of the things that has given me pause about starting a blog, is exactly what you’ve shared Emily. I don’t want to get caught up in the matrix of having to strive-press-push to do more and more to be seen as a “tastemaker” or “brand influencer.”
I know that you and most of the other blogs that I have had the pleasure of frequenting over the past 8 years, started out as creative outlets for the bloggers. And I have always admired the tenacity and savvy of fellow moms, who have transformed their creative outlets into businesses that they love AND help their family’s bottom line to boot.
Still, there’s something to be said for being content and knowing that your success isn’t measured by book deals and product lines.
Thanks for the reminder that blogging doesn’t have to be about all of that.
Loved this.
It’s so easy to fall into the trap of “more” and forget to focus on making the right choices for you, and you alone. I stopped commuting to a somewhat glamorous job about a year ago to work remotely for a smaller company. I no longer hob nob with influential people or work with cool brands everyone has heard of; instead, I’m home everyday when my son gets off the bus and work happens in a little office steps from my bedroom. There are trade-offs, but I finally feel like I can balance the work I love with the life I love even more.
And this is WHY you have so many avid readers, Emily! It reminded me of this quote I love by Marjorie Hinckley.
“I don’t want to drive up to the pearly gates in a shiny sports car, wearing beautifully, tailored clothes, my hair expertly coiffed, and with long, perfectly manicured fingernails.
I want to drive up in a station wagon that has mud on the wheels from taking kids to scout camp.
I want to be there with a smudge of peanut butter on my shirt from making sandwiches for a sick neighbors children.
I want to be there with a little dirt under my fingernails from helping to weed someone’s garden.
I want to be there with children’s sticky kisses on my cheeks and the tears of a friend on my shoulder.
I want the Lord to know I was really here and that I really lived.”
I love that quote, its one of my favorites! Great woman, Marjorie Hinckley!!
I am a 55 year old stay at home wife. All my husband and I hear is the big question as to why I am STILL at home. ???? I am happy puttering around here after raising our five. We do not need any income from me. We like our laid back life with my husband working and me holding down the home. All that to say, why go chasing after more when you are happy and doing the best for you and your family? I have stopped following a number of blogs recently just because I am not on board with all the ladder climbing. I enjoy coming here where you are your family are real and I will enjoy seeing what you do with that new house since I live in a twin to yours. Cheering you on all the way!
Thank you for this post Emily! I Am a SAHM and struggle from time to time , now that all my kids are in school, with the thought of should I try and get a part time job or volunteer consistently somewhere, just so people won’t think I stay at home and do nothing all day:-) Of course I am PLENTY busy all day but sometimes I worry that staying at home is not perceived that way by other moms who have “real jobs”. I am perfectly content staying at home, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry etc, and I know I am SO BLESSED to be able to do so. I guess the ” next big thing” for me would be going back to work but honestly, I don’t know how I’d do it……I don’t know how any working women do it!! I guess the secret to contentment is not listening to anyone else but yourself.
Yes, Emily! Who needs a product line when you have five children? Pay attention to them. There will be time for the product line and all the rest later. Really. Your blog is wonderful.
So wise! Thanks for sharing, Emily. I love your blog, too, just the way it is.
Once again you hit the nail on the head. I’m so glad to hear that, for now, you’re not giving up this blog. I so enjoy ready your blog! and seeing your pics, and your kids, etc. – you have just the right touch :) Once a long time ago I kind of made the choice to not move on up the ol’ “corporate ladder” – I chose to remain in an administrative support role rather than moving to a leadership/manager role.. (If I would have had my way I wouldn’t have even been working!) I love love love being home and decided a 9-5 job with no responsibilities after I walked out their door was best for me and my family. Yeah I see women my age doing so much more with their careers – but that’s their choice – and I’m so fine with mine!
I love that HOME is your happy place it certainly is mine. And I love popping on your blog every few days to see what’s happening because it feels like home and you shouldn’t change anything about it.
Long-time reader, first-time commentator; YES and thank you for this lovely and timely post.
i so enjoy your blog. i come away with bits of ideas and inspiration. i love that you aren’t always trying to sell me something or push me into a store so that my house looks like all the other homes on my block.as someone who once made their living helping people brand their companies, i am so over the branding theme. and the daily endorsements? they make me crazy. your blog is refreshing and so enjoyable. i crave contentment. embrace today and all the little joys it brings♥
Please, please, please….stay the same! For the reasons you mention there are barely any good blogs left to read!
Emily, this was just so, so good. I fight the striving for the “next thing” all the time. And even though I’m smack dab in the middle of a season of change, this is such a good reminder. Loved hearing your thoughts and I aways look forward to visiting your site.
Emily,
I’m not an expert at anything but I do know that I love your blog so much. Not really sure why? It always feels familiar, welcoming, sincere, loving, insightful…I could go on and on. I love reading everything you write no matter the subject. You can feel the love you put in to what you are writing about. I would imagine you touch people in many different ways.
Lv, Kathleen
THANK YOU for this post. THANK YOU! God used these words to speak to my heavy, ‘wanting more,’ sinful, heart today. Keep on writing, He is using it for His purpose and our (your readers) good.
Beautiful post! I totally agree 100%! Beautifully worded! Just beautiful.
Long time reader, live in Mooresville, and love your blog! Look forward to reading it everyday. I think that sometimes isn’t it nice to…. JUST BE. Everyone has a choice in life, some love to have it all, but honestly when you have it all, doesn’t something or someone always get the short end of the stick? Just be happy. Can’t wait to see what you do with your new house, and hope you keep blogging for many more years!
WOW. Hit the nail on the head for me. The struggle is REAL. Every, single, day. I feel the push to be more. Be better. Be bigger. Do more. Do it all. And do it WELL. I struggle with doing what God created me to do, and being the mama God created me to be. Most every time I do one well, and not the other. It’s usually my babies that pay the price of my stress, and that is so wrong. Thank you for putting yourself out there. As evidenced by the amount of comments, you struck a cord with all of us today. You are so right. Being content with what we have/ do/ are= Happiness. HE did not create us for stress. Hugs to you my friend.
You have hit the nail on the head for me!! This is the same feeling I’ve had about my career for so long. I’m not the CEO drive to the top type of person. I love my family too much. I cherish them. They are the job God has given me. If I fail at that, nothing else matters. So while we won’t ever have a fancy house or live a luxurious lifestyle, I’m rich in other ways. Ways that matter. THANK YOU for putting these feelings down. Know that you are NOT alone. I LOVE your blog, and look forward to reading it every day. You inspire me. Not only with your design saavy but with your mothering. Keep going!!!
“Contentment is not the fulfillment of what you want but the realization of how much you already have.”
Your children will grow up and be gone before you know it and you will miss those hugs and daily chores sooner than you realize now. Take the time to be in the moment, content enough to be happy. You won’t be sorry.
Thanks for posting these thoughtful words.
I find it fascinating that so many people don’t know how to be delighted with their life if they are content…with where they are, what they have, what they do. Why must we all believe we are missing out if we are not constantly striving for the next big thing out there…whatever that thing might be? I love feeling content with my life. I’m not waiting for what big thing might (or might not) come tomorrow, but love where I am and what I’m doing right this minute. It’s a lovely place to be, so stay there if you can. Enjoy those kiddos at this time…tomorrow will still come and it can all change in an instant.
My teen son recently told me, “Mom, this is so great–you have to listen to it”. It was Andy Stanley’s podcast called “The Comparison Trap”. There is always someone with seemingly more, bigger, better—but to what standard are we comparing ourselves?? You have your priorities right where they need to be. I applaud you!
This post resonated with me. I am a new grandmother, re-experiencing the joys of babydom and childhood. The happiest time in my life was when I was a young mother, struggling to keep everyone fed, clothed, bathed, educated, fund-raised (if that can be a word) and happy, in addition to a part time, then a full time job. I have never been so fully committed – emotionally and by the clock, nor have I ever been so needed or wanted or necessary. That is heady stuff – especially in retrospect, once you have caught up on sleep or twenty years later, whichever comes first.
Enjoy being the sandwich maker, enjoy that you have a creative outlet that you are quite talented at. Enjoy that you are being all things to those that need you most right now. Branding will take care of itself.
I don’t think it’s out of fashion to be content, in fact isn’t that what we all crave? It’s just that the world says “you’ll be content with more (insert a book, product line, speaking engagements, etc)” and you’re suddenly unfashionable to think otherwise. But like you said, when your heart tells you that you’re blessed to be right where you are, then you’ve found the sweet spot and should embrace it, regardless of what the “experts” say. Your legacy is your family, not a book or product line. Maybe that will happen someday, maybe it won’t, but right now you’re doing the right thing, keeping your focus on your family because that’s what brings you happiness, I couldn’t agree more. We shared this sentiment together at the event last week, and it is so delightful to hear it voiced on your blog. Keep on inspiring us with your talents and wisdom my friend!
xoxo
Kate
Love, love, love this! So beautifully said. Thank you for the guts to say what may be unpopular but what many of us also feel.
Hello,
Your blog is lovely..design style of writing and personal. You will have zero regrets on tucking, making, and refereeing. I have followed you for many years and you are still one the blogs I try not to miss or read back posts because life got by me.
All the best to you and your beautiful spirited family, I look forward to how you transform your new home.
Maureen
Well said, girl! Push back against what’s expected and just enjoy the now! Your little ones will be grown up before you know it, and trust me, it will happen. (I can speak from experience, I have an 18 year old and a 21 year old). I never thought it would happen, but there is a season for everything. You are doing what’s most important now and you will never regret it.
You are a wise woman. Follow your heart. You are living authentically. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.
Oh, Emily, I wish we would have gotten to talk a bit more in NYC. I have to say that this post came at just the right time for me. I so agree that the world is constantly telling us we are not enough. I am guilty like everyone else of thinking maybe I should be chasing down everything that seems fitting for the field we are in. But, then, I look at my husband, my boys, my home and I, like you, feel a sense of this is EXACTLY where I am supposed to be right now. I think of what’s most important in the grand scheme of things and I am looking at it right at home– right under my nose. I just turned down something really huge, that in the beginning was exciting and then I realized the toll it would have on my family and I walked away. None of this stuff matters if it will get in the way of our children feeling loved. Priorities and being good stewards of what has been gifted to us is what is most important. There are seasons for everything, and who knows what will happen down the road. Thanks for sharing and I love your heart xo Kristin
I love your blog and wouldn’t change a thing. Thanks for feeding us want to be decorators:) I tend to look at blogs as art and it’s your canvas to express whatever you want. Keep up the good work!
I was just thinking about this this morning. Every great blogger I’ve followed has morphed into a business and then the blog falls by the wayside. The truth is most of us just really enjoy reading the blogs and ideas, the community of sharing ideas. I don’t want to follow a blogger bc I want her to design my house or sell me all get textiles. I want her in the way that I want a teacher and a friend. A “hey would this look good in my house” kinda way. So thank you for this. There’s still so many of us with you!
Goodness, I didn’t think I would ever get to the end of the comments so I could add one too! This should affirm that you are indeed doing the right things.
I have just gone on Permanent Summer Vacation after teaching for 38 years. There were “opportunities” during that time when I was flown to far away cities to teach at fancy seminars. It was all very exciting to be invited but I soon realized it was more exciting to be at home with family. Your heart will tell you what is right for you.
Your blog is my favorite because you aren’t constantly “selling” a product. Please continue what you are doing and welcome to Charlotte! It is a great place to live and raise a family.
Wow, just look at all these comments! You have struck a chord it seems! And it is because you were willing stay say what everyone else was feeling….ENOUGH! I’m so tired of the “you can do everything, you SHOULD do EVERYTHING or you will miss out on a great life “message! But the cruel joke is by doing everything, by constantly checking on what’s the newest latest greatest thing to be doing, we are essentially doing nothing. We are not in the moment and participating in our lives. We become the search instead of enjoying the journey, the moment, the sweetness.
Amen sista!
YES! Of course there are days we let the more messages permeate- but I am so grateful for this post. Yes, cleaning up after my kids and making my house nice is where life is right now. And it’s a happy season! I feel like you just gave me permission to enjoy it, well done. ?
Thank you. That’s all. Just thank you.
My stomach was beginning to turn…I was afraid you were “going in another direction”. Please stay just like your are.
Your blog is a bright spot in my day. Thank you!
You hit the nail on the head with this. I think we have all felt like this at one time or another…whether we are full time parents, full time employees or anywhere in between. There is always focus on the “next big thing” and the here and now doesn’t get it’s credit. I’m glad you have been able to recognize your happiness…that in and of itself is a gift! :)
Thank you. As a blogger who has been wrestling with where to go from here I appreciate your thoughts. <3
Carry on, Emily! I’m in complete agreement with everything you said and encourage you to enjoy every bit of the contentment your life brings you!
You struck a cord with this post :)
I fight the same issue, since I always compare myself to the more popular designers. I don’t have kids or any of those really important things in my life. But I remind myself I am content and generally happy helping the clients I work with – even if their houses aren’t in national magazines. I do this to help each person live a more functional and beautiful life.
Keep up your day job – it is what will really pay off in the end.
Design will fill your time in a different ways as your family changes.
Thanks for sharing!
I soooo soooooo relate to this. I feel like I need to be developing products or doing consultations, launching this or that. And I have ideas for those, but this is just NOT the season in my life for that. I have a preschooler and a baby at home. I want to be with them and don’t regret for a second that they are here and that they are the largest chunk of my time right now. Sure, I adore blogging. It’s my space, but if I don’t get to spend time on it one day because I’ve got a sick kid, then that’s ok. I can launch a product when I’m 50 and have way more wisdom and experience under my belt! ;-)
Wow. Scrolling through all of the comments and you’ve really struck a chord.
You love your blog – I love reading your blog. Win/win. I love that you are talented and creative but your authenticity truly enhances everything you do. Please keep being you. In one of Shakespeare’s sonnets he said:
Which can say more than this rich praise, that you alone… are YOU!
What a refreshing post! Your candor is appreciated. I have enjoyed your blog for quite some time and continue to enjoy it because it is “real”, even with sponsored or compensated posts. There are so many blogs I no longer read (or their instagram accounts too) because they have become too branded, or have become pseudo fashion and shopping blogs. The spirit is gone in so many of them now. I believe people should be able to make money from blogging if they want, but when content is generated and disingenuous just for the sake of having a post with affiliate links etc, I am no longer interested. Contentment is a good thing!!
Being a mom is ENOUGH. And being one of God’s children is ENOUGH. So thankful to read this post today and your thoughts on not letting others grand-ness temp you into thinking you need more. :) thank you! good for you! love your blog as is!
Awesome, awesome post! I have been thinking about the same things lately after a “Facebook friend” posted a comment on his page that basically said to everyone if you don’t have goals please delete me from your friends list. I thought about it awhile b/c I don’t have big lofty job-related goals like some might, however, I do have “life” goals, not necessarily “job” goals. I am happy and content in my part time job that allows me to be there for my kids after school. One of my life goals are to raise happy, healthy kids into adulthood.
AMEN!! What a refreshing post, I love it and love how you have always been so genuine and real on your blog!
I don’t think there’s anything at all wrong with being content. If you’re happy just blogging, just keep doing that! Don’t feel like you have to write a book (or whatever) just because that’s what everyone else does.
I have been reading your blog for a long time and I just wanted to say that this post sums up exactly(!) why I am still reading and loving your blog. Trust me when I say so many others want to see the real life stuff, not just what’s pretty and fits with a particular branding/marketing. Thank you for being (authentically) who you are and a blogger I can both admire AND relate to :)
Emily,
What a wonderful post! I love that you feel contentment and happiness in being a mom, and keeping your blog going without feeling the need to ‘do it all’, just because it seems to be the trend. Trends come and go, as you know, but your children are only young once, and how that time flies! I’m a mother of 4, and already my oldest is 22. I can’t believe it, but he is. I myself love to decorate, look at Decorating blogs, books, people’s homes, hunt for unique finds, and the list goes on. But, I love it because it is still fun to me and not because its a stress, or a need to keep up with the latest fad. I always enjoy what you write, and your great ideas, because you seem and sound genuine. So, after that long ‘book’ I just wrote, I say listen to what your feelings are and go with that! Best of luck to you!
“Comparison is the thief of joy” – don’t let it rob you!!
I love your message! Thank you for sharing.
I have been reading your blog for years. It is always the first one I go to when I sit down after a long day with kiddos. I have never commented before but felt the need to say THANK YOU for for this post! I used to love sitting down and reading tons of blogs but most all of the ones I started reading have now moved on to “bigger and better” things…creating their brand apparently. I just like connecting with another mother who has a passion for design but more importantly, her family. You are an inspiration to so many women. Thank you!
I am so happy that you continue to be real. You aren’t pushing a book deal, you are telling us your favorite books. The whole branding of blogs and everyone trying to make a profit of me is exhausting. PLEASE keep doing what you are doing. Your blog is loved by so many. Thank you
Your blog is the only one I make sure to read, that I look forward to read because it is real and authentic and I feel you are not chasing after something or encouraging me to chase after something! You have managed that incredible balance of being my home style/design authority and the feeling of a good friend. Keep doing what you are doing – I’d be missing a friend if you didn’t.
Thanks for this lovely post. I’m a SAHM that works PT from home. I work because it helps us financial. Its not a dream job, but it works. I get to be the one cuddling with my 10 1/2 month old when he hits his head because he trying to stand up on his own. I get to be the one who gives my 4 year high fives for writing her letters in all lower cases correctly. I get to see the smiles, not someone else. Right now, this is were I need to be. I don’t need the world to think I should be doing more to be happy.
I think your blog was so spot on today! It is so hard not to get caught up in what the world says you can/should become versus what God has for you. Our individual journey’s are just that – individual and unique. What is good for one is not necessarily good for another. The 10 Made journey has been similar for me and Jen (my business partner). We want to be who God has called us to be and 10 Made’s success is what God has planned, not our plan. AND I get to be mom, work from home when my babies are sick, turn off the computer when its craft time, and pick them up from school.
Thank you for your authenticity that so many of us can relate to!
I can completely relate to this. I am not a blogger, but constantly feel like I’m not doing enough or that I should be doing more. The truth is I am happy and content doing exactly what I am doing right now. Thanks for your words of encouragement. It’s difficult to push that “more, more, more” mentality away.
Emily ~ I have been following your blog for years and have never left a comment. Even so…I feel like I know you personally and have always thought that we think a lot alike. I tell my husband that you’re my much-more-talented younger sister! ;-) After reading today’s post, I just had to tell you that you’re right on target. It’s no crime to simply be content and to recognize that you’re right where God wants you to be, doing the most important job in the world with a very special title, “Mommy”. Your talent, sincerity and level of transparency is what continues to make your blog so popular. Not because you’re trying to reach for the next rung. Keep doing what you’re doing…being happy and inspiring us all! P.S. I’m not a fan of early morning sandwich making either! haha
Today I read your blog for the first time. I was quite moved by your willingness to be so transparent, as well as your ability to express yourself with the written word. What a beautiful, beautiful message you’ve shared. Your emotional IQ is a model for many of us who are often confused about what the world is telling us we “want” to be and what should be important to us. I am bookmarking your blog.
Thank you so much for this post. I read several design blogs and yours is my favorite. I’ve never met you but I feel like I know you because of the voice you have established in your writing. I know that your “voice” is always going to steer your readers toward contentment. I personally need that voice in my life. It is so tempting to do everything bigger, but I thank you for practicing what you preach. This faithful blog reader appreciates you.
Emily,
So glad you have decided to continue your blog. I have enjoyed it for several years. Seems like I know you. Love your decorating ideas and when you share photos of your family. It is so refreshing to know that there are still young women who love working from home and love being a mother. Enjoy this time of your life!!!
Thank you for all for your wonderful posts that I have read in the past. I am in the older crowd of your readers, but one that is happy that you will keep on letting us see the beauty in your life! I felt the need to let you know i appreciate all that you do!
Wow! You’ve got a heap of comments here! This post is really speaking to a lot of people.
My husband and I recently gave up being self employed after 13 years of struggle when he was offered his dream job. We moved away and have set up home 4 hours away from family and friends in the beautiful Scottish highlands. I don’t work, I cook, I walk our dog, I decorate, I clean, in fact I’m an old fashioned housewife. But I feel so guilty and lazy every time someone asks me the dreaded question “and what do you do?” I somehow feel that it would be acceptable if we had kids, but we don’t, so I find myself trying to justify it to people!
But the truth is I simply like being at home pottering about. We only just manage to get by financially so having a second income would be wonderful but after spending 13 years doing something that we didn’t enjoy we both agreed that we wouldn’t get jobs just for the money. I promised that if I got a job it would be because it would bring me pleasure and be something that I wanted to do.
Life really is to short to follow the money. Do what brings you pleasure and joy, even if it is unfashionable.
Hi Emily, I’ve been reading and watching your progress for years. This post is fantastic. I love how honest you are. I’m a lot older than you, and you are in the midst of one of the best times of your life. More isn’t always better. And I agree that being content is the best road to happiness. Social media is a cool but dangerous place with a lot of unrealities. You, however, are very real.
Wow – Emily – I am getting to this late in the day and I see that I am not the only one to send out an “Amen, Sister!” I hope you feel the love from all of us here who think the same way. Sometimes it feels good just to know you are not alone in your thinking. I couldn’t agree more with you and certainly feel the same inner struggles. Thank you! It’s been a long day but your post picked me up!
I love your blog and would miss you so much. I have followed you since before the twins were born and love the family bits that you share plus your style. I fine it refreshing that you are happy with where you are. thank you for sharing with us!
Thank you so much for posting this. This are very wise words. I love my job but it’s not the most glamorous job either & I could go and get a “better” job. You helped me realize that I’m not lazy for not getting a “better” job, I am simply just happy where I am now.
What a great post! So glad I’m not alone in being happy with what I have and what I want for the future. No ambitious plans for me – just looking to enjoy each day for whatever it brings.
I agree! Nothing wrong with just being happy where you are. You don’t always have to be “looking for the next best thing” to be relevant. Very wise words indeed :)
Emily,you are perfectly wonderful the way you are! I feel that contentment is often a beautiful gift from God…so enjoy this moment, the babies will be gone before you know it! You are doing the most important work,raising and caring for your family.
Dear Emily, I am an almost 65 year old woman who retired about two years ago. I was a director for a large, 136 bed healthcare facility. I loved what I did and was proud that I advanced that far given that I’d started a second career as a nurse 22 years prior. But I have to tell you, I missed a lot along the way. I had to start a busy career, shift work and long hours because I had 3 little girls to support by myself. I missed field hockey games, programs at school and much, much more. Listen carefully, YOU NEVER GET THAT BACK. Once that time is gone, its gone. I am very close to my daughters, and now to my grandchildren. One of the reasons I wanted to retire beyond the fact that I could financially, was to spend more time with my family. I love those little grandchildren and their hugs and sleepovers and shopping and lunches out and all the things that Nanas get to do. While its important that your children grow up knowing you are a person with interests and abilities (you are a decorator and blogger), there will be more time for that later. If you have something you do that you love, they will respect you for that, so enjoy your blog and whatever comes your way, but don’t build a bigger life if you are very happy with the one you have. Don’t miss the times that you can’t get back. And don’t feel like you aren’t succeeding if you don’t build a bigger brand. Plenty of us love your blog and look forward to your tasteful posts and will continue to follow you. Best of luck Emily. Sounds like you are right where you really want to be!!
So beautifully said, Emily! Thank you for this post. It really encouraged me!
Oh my gosh! I love this message and I love your blog! Please don’t stop posting like Young House Love! I’m kidding, sort of. It was what they needed to do for their family and lives, but I love reading your posts. I recently left a job of 7 years that I LOVED. I had a ton of pressure from outside to move on and become a VP even though I was happy and content at what I was doing and where I was working, and had found the perfect balance for being a working Mom. I did change jobs, but not because of external pressure or because I wanted to move on, but because my workplace was undergoing major changes. Anyways! I miss it! I like my job now and will probably love it in time too.
The point of my rambling, after a LONG day and a glass of wine ;) is that I love that you are confident in your life and in your blog to be happy and content with it is. I say keep on doing what your doing and if it isn’t broke, don’t fix it. Also, the grass isn’t always greener on the other side!
AMEN!!! I have noticed a trend among the many blogs I touch base on and almost everyone out there seem to be ‘running so fast their feet don’t touch the ground’…..like the Roadrunner. ?.
Much of the hoopla comes as a result of more and more frivolous social media pushing on and on for more ‘friends’ to jump on that bandwagon.
I applaud you for knowing just what is really and truly important in this life. In our heart of hearts, this is the only meaningful thing that counts.
Love your blog just as it is.
Deb
I loved this message! Your essay really spoke to me tonight as my husband is struggling whether to take a promotion doing something he doesn’t really want to do or to stay right where he is…where he is happy doing what he does. Thank you for your personal insight.
You are so amazing. You are happy. There are so many things out there right now pushing us to run from the home. Like somehow being here with our families isn’t enough. Women can do it all. We can. It is such a personal decision to know if you should. Your blog is beautiful, heartfelt and personal. Contentment is something that many people can chase their entire lives. You are so blessed that in the middle of what I am sure are chaotic days with very young children that you have found how to do something that brings you fulfillment, joy and contentment.
Hi Emily, I’ve been reading your blog for a few years now. I love coming to this blog. It’s not just the pretty pictures or design talk, it’s because I feel GOOD when I come to it. I can’t think of any other lifestyle or decorating blog where I feel the same way (although Miss Mustard Seed comes close). With other blogs, I am constantly comparing myself to the blogger and her lifestyle. It’s ridiculous on my part. I look (reasonably) nice, I have a wonderful husband and three fantastic kids; I enjoy my house and my hobbies. But for some strange reason I like to go to those blogs and indulge in some self-flagellation (why am I not as thin? have as amazing of a wardrobe? Fewer dishes, etc). Those things are so, SO unimportant, but I allow myself to get sucked in. Your blog is different. I am able to enjoy design without feeling discontent. Which is quite a feat you have pulled off on this blog., especially because you are very pretty, have a great family, and an amazingly decorated home(s). When I come to your blog, I feel happy to see what you have to share, AND I feel happy with what I have. Thank you for that.
Take care, Megan in MA
That’s it in a nutshell. I don’t want to throw my stuff out and start over after reading Emily’s blog. I don’t leave discontented, either. I’m truly inspired and look around my house and put things together in a new, beautiful way because she gave me the idea! And, of course, that makes me love my home even more!
I have never commented on your blog though I have visited several times.
so many have said all the positive words I would have said , so I will simply say ” BRAVO”~!
and Thank You for not making me click 15 times to get where it was I wanted to be- at your BLOG.
Sonny
I guarantee that at the end of your life it will not be “oh I wish I had expanded my blog” but the love of your family and the sacrifices you have made that will bring you peace and joy. Great job in saying this. So needed in this world.
It is interesting reading different bloggers’ takes on the “changes to the blog world.” I am glad you still enjoy doing your blog because I (and I’m sure many others) still enjoy reading! Thank you for sticking with it!
Thank you! There are so few bloggers left that share their lives and not just write disguised posts for Blue Apron or Target. I appreciate you!!!!
Glad you are staying with blogging YOUR way and not giving into the junior high comparing mode that haunts us throughout life. I’ve dropped reading many blogs that are self-promoting their business and design services. They generally give less on the blog unless you are paying for their insights. That’s fine, if that’s what you want but I don’t and I don’t read their blogs.
Decor blogging has changed a great deal in just 5 years. Those who are in design services for a living generally cannot blog regularly with any quality. They just can’t as they often have families and do this design work full-time. We can’t expect, as readers, for such bloggers to do it all. Some full-time designers hire extra help to do posts because they do drum up business by keeping their blog going. But it’s usually just not the same.
I feel for the decor bloggers because things are changing and it must be quite confusing just what to do at times. And some readers are just impatient when things change and have to change.
In any case I am glad you are happy doing your blog the way that works best for you. Because I sure appreciate your efforts and expertise.
One of the reasons I love your blog so much is because that’s exactly what it is- a blog! Full of fun ideas that revolve about designing and polishing life in a family-friendly way. You aren’t pushing your new line at a store or your latest book (although I’d definitely love to see a book someday!), you are giving fresh ideas to your readers because it’s your passion, and we read because it’s ours! Your blog is such a perfect way to sit and end the day! Thank you!! Keep it up! :)
This is beautifully written. Your blog Posts inspired me to go after my dreams and I love reading them. I feel like there’s always pressure to do more and that can get confusing and frustrating. Contentment isn’t a bad place to be!
I came to your blog a long time ago, at the time I was looking for design advise, seeing some of your rooms made me follow you, as they were lovely.
I stayed for the little anecdotes on your life. I have young kids. Oops, they got in the way of me doing xyz project. You don’t sugar coat it.
I’m tired of perfectly styled rooms, children and lives. I just want real and relate-able. I applaud the raw, and believe me, I have had the laughs, knowing I was there too.
I’m following the second blog, but I’m really curious (and a tad jealous) of the new house. I can’t wait to see what you do with it.
Emily, you are a breath of fresh air and offer such peace to those of us facing similar thoughts. I love reading your blog and the way it makes me feel and sometimes chuckle. You inspire and I wouldn’t want you to change into a materialist woman chasing after the wind. Your career is exactly where I am glad it is and hope it stays. Kind of like the reality shows that start out so awesome. I wouldn’t want you to turn into the reality shows that eventually become scripted and you can tell they are now fake and staged. I am so happy that you are happy where you are! Keep being awesome Emily!
Love, love, love this post! I agree – being content with what you have and where you are and just enjoying the journey.
As I mentioned in a comment to a previous post, I have followed you since 2009. I check your blog every morning. What I loved was the design, your creativity and the joy in your posts about your family. Please don’t change!! You are one of my favorite design bloggers.
I was so happy when you announced that you were moving! This meant future blog posts of how you transformed each room in your home to make it your own. As a new mom, I enjoy your other blog as well – love your candidness, your sense of humor and the adorable pictures of your kids!
Just yes. Love this.
I love today’s post! This is the perfect example of why I start every answer to the question, “What made you want to start a blog?” with, “Well, I came across this blogger Emily A. Clark a few years ago…” :-)
Love that :)
Emily, all of the other reader have said exactly what I was dying to tell you, so I’ll just add this. You inspire me to see all of the good in my life and my many blessings. Contentment is something I’ve struggled with since I got married 10 years ago and just yesterday, I told a friend that I was finally finding contentment in my life. Your blog post just confirmed that I’m right where I want to be, so THANK YOU so much!!
I think you’re so great Emily, I really do! You are so real, can zero in on what’s important…you just get it! Your blog is consistently a happy and inspiring place to visit… So thank you!
I’d say you hit a nerve with this one and it’s one we can all agree on! I feel like I have been challenged to learn the art of contentment and quit striving to do everything. It’s actually a wonderful feeling and my eyes have been open to so many blessings around me. Contentment is like that, once you start making a point of opening yourself up to it, you see so many more things to be content and grateful for. I so enjoy your blog. I appreciate your authenticity as well as your impeccable style. As a reader, I’m glad to know that you are happy being a blogger. There is something turns me off when I feel like because I read someones blog then I should read the book, buy the product or contribute to the favorite cause just because I read the blog. I’m gad you’ll be around!
Please keep blogging. I love to read it at night before I go to sleep. I have actually used many of your ideas to decorate my condo. I am getting ready to tile a backsplash, which I would have never done without your inspiration. I just turned 60, my children are grown and it went so fast. So glad I spent the time at home. I work almost fulltime now. You can always work more but you can never get back those precious years when your children are young
Thank you.
Thank you Emily for such a wonderful blog! Other commenters here seem to have put their finger on what it is that makes your blog so special. You are absolutely my favorite blogger and the one I visit every day. While I miss you on the days you don’t post, I know it’s because you are doing life and design so you actually HAVE something to post! As someone else said, I was anxious at the beginning of this post that you were going to announce a change, and relieved that you are keeping things as they are. I can’t wait to see all that you do in your new home! All the best to you and your beautiful family!
Oh you! This is so perfect! Sound the trumpet for a new attitude–I love it! Emily, I love what a commenter wrote about your blog being a place where she leaves never feeling less-than or discontented, and I feel THESAMEWAY! It’s a wonderful gift you’re giving us, your readers.
I see you seeking first the kingdom of God, and, well, He’s adding ALLLLLL the other things (and they aren’t worldly things ;))
I love that you give room for a sense of friendship here. Friendship with those of us really longing to see it done well but in “real life” (and in a down-in-my-heart happy life at that). You do that through features like Working with What You Have, What Would You Do, and the series and posts that are similar and acknowledge that there are a lot of different kinds of homes, incomes, skill level and the rest. And we know you love us anyway. I have always felt encouraged here. You inspire us to give something a try, look at things differently, add & take away in our homes AND our hearts! I am crazy about you and your blog. Preach contentment sister. You’ve got a crowd behind you for sure & I’m in it…lead the way!
This makes me teary happy. I love that you feel that way when you visit my blog :)
I’ve read your blog for years. First time commenting. You’re blog makes me happy. Glad to hear you are too. Please don’t change a thing :) …unless of course it makes you happy
Love your blog just the way it is-follow your gut. I like your varied topics and excellent design aesthetic! Keep up the good work!
What beautiful thoughts! I have found in my own life that gratitude brings contentment and when I start feeling the need for “more” it’s because I’ve stopped focusing on my blessings. Thanks for your heartfelt words. I’m also a mother, and with my oldest just leaving the nest this past month, I don’t regret one moment I have spent with my kids- even the non-glamorous ones. You seem to have a found a beautiful balance for yourself, your creativity and your family!
I so agree that many popular bloggers have used their blog as a platform for other things and in most cases I am very excited for them, in other cases I feel somewhat used. I started blogging when no one knew what a blog was and that has grown into blogging for others in the design field who could not or did not want to blog themselves but recognized the need for an online presence. All of the hype and competition and wondering if I should even bother prompted me to begin writing a monthly post on those things that make me happy, in part to keep me focused on the good things as I was not ready to give up my own blog (even though I continue to ghost blog for others). I hope you continue to blog as I continue to look forward to your posts and following along with your young family. hang in there!
This is why it’s a treasure to stumble on an “old” blog and read the good stuff-old posts that are real and spontaneously creative. Bloggers start to kill the very thing that made them so special in the first place. And I love just blog posts, I hate Pinterest. It is like the junkiest junk food pig out ever. Sometimes I even just want to study old magazines or house books!
You are a classy lady Emily and I always check your blog first (although I’m fine with sporadic but quality posts).
I’m a very long term lurker who came here when the first pictures of your gorgeous office were making the rounds. I’ve stayed because your writing resonated and connected with me, despite the fact I am probably 30 years your senior. You have a unique voice and communicate your love of design, family life and making a home in such a way that it gives me the confidence to believe I can do the same.
Yours is one of only two blogs I read consistently. Five years ago it was considerably more. I’ve taken the Marie Kondo approach to my online life and only stayed with what I love. It has been a privilege to watch you and your family through the window your blog has opened. I look back on my life and professional career and do not regret a single second of the 20 years I chose to be home with my children. And as of two months ago I don’t regret leaving a job I was lukewarm about to be there for my grandchildren. Love and connection are what make a rewarding life. Keep on with the things that make you happy. I will be here right along with you.
Ahhh- I thought you were about to announce stepping away from the blog! I’m a long time reader from Australia and I love coming here to see the mix of family life, southern charm, design ideas, DIY and suggested blogs. You do a great job & contentment is a great goal.
Emily, I have been following you for a few years and I think this is an awesome post! I just think we always struggle with being better and greater but, you are just where you should be now. It is such a blessing and privilege to be able to raise your own children. Keep posting and giving us a few insights into your beautiful family and remain happy. God’ s continued blessings to you and yours!
Your blog was one of the first ones I began reading. The “thing” that attracted me and interested me was the “family” involved. You were real. Your home was real. And I have continued reading because you have been speaking from your heart.
Thanks for staying true to yourself. My kids are grown. Oh, how I would trade for a few minutes of being at home with little ones (even settling fights).
Hi Emily,
The reason I keep reading your blog is because you are authentic and openly share the trials of being a mum and talking about real life and the issues we mums face. Thank you for that. I too have often struggled with being content wondering if I did not have enough motivation or if I was less than someone else because I didn’t share their aspirations. Your blog post reminds me to keep believing in myself and to be true to who I am. God bless.
Such a good thought to have and to challenge that push to do more! I often get asked what I want my blog to turn into and my response is always I’m just doing this for fun. :)
Corbin
http://www.bluedoorlivingblog.com
Emily,
This post is SO REFRESHING! Thank you!! So true what you said about being content with where we are at in our lives and that it’s okay!! There is so much pressure out there to impress that truly robs us of happiness and the the joy of what we are doing! As a newbie blogger, I’m taking your words as gold and running with it! So fun chatting with you at the BHG Stylemaker Event!!
xo,
Shauna
Emily, I couldn’t agree more with this, thank you for hitting the publish button. It’s exhausting always trying to accomplish “the next big thing”, especially as a blogger. I have been trying this year to make a more conscious effort in doing what is right for me and my family. Professionally, I have realized that I am not seeking a fancy title or a larger work load, I’m fine where I am at. As a blogger, I try to post about what I love, and I try to do it on a (mostly) consistent basis, but that is just twice a week, I would hate blogging if I had to come up with something new everyday. So, to some it may seem that I am settling, or that I am not driven, but I am driven, driven to enjoy my family and find our own happy. So, I do what I have to do, and everything else is a bonus.
Thanks for being open and honest, there are a lot of us who feel the same way and maybe didn’t know how to say it! Keep doing what makes you happy, and we will keep coming back here, because it makes us happy!
Steph
Oh my gosh, Emily. I have A MILLION thoughts (as apparently everyone else does too!). First of all, the word “hustle” is thrown around constantly by a lot of entrepreneurs and bloggers and designers. But never do I hear the word “rest” being used with the same intensity. This idea/pressure that mothers should literally DO IT ALL and never drop a single ball is just hugely overwhelming. Honestly, it leaves me feeling like a failure constantly. I’ve had to seriously call into question all my intentions and feelings of inadequacy this year after having Josie. I’ve had to learn to cut a lot of things out and sacrifice on my “dreams” in huge ways that not a lot of people talk about. But, at the end of the day, I still think about how wonderful it is to get to hold her whenever I want to, to be the one who gets to watch her grow up, to feed her, to see all of her firsts, the list goes on and on. I just totally agree with you is basically what I’m saying! And this line “It’s really the idea of the dream that seems appealing. But, the reality of it. . . not so much.” YES. I’m so glad you wrote this post!! I really wish more people thought outside the box like you!
Becoming a mom changes your whole thought process, doesn’t it? :)
I LOVE YOUR BLOG! PLEASE DON’T STOP!
First, I just want to say what an amazing post this was! Great job! It sounds like it came right out of Carrie Bradshaw’s (from Sex and the City) mouth! I am actually in a place where I want to grow my business to something bigger and better. But I want it to be okay as soon as I am happy and content with my life as a career-woman! I don’t think enough people talk about things like this and I appreciate your thoughts!
Emily,
I love reading your blog and it is something I look forward too. I think you tell us how it really is and we can all relate to your days! My children are grown now but I remember when those were my days too.
Design is my main love and I adore what you share with us. Glad to hear that you are happy just as much as I am. Keep up the good work and remember I adore your inspiration!!!
Great post. I understand completely. Back in 2013 I left a great job making great money to stay at home. It was the best decision I ever made. God has provided a great opportunity now where I work in the winter and am able to stay at home in the summer. (even better gig than a teacher!) Lately I have been called a couple times with offers to come back to the workforce full time and while the world tells us to be motivated to be more and do more, I am content and happy having the extra time for my family. Good for you!
You’re so right – sometimes the chorus of More, More, More! makes it hard to see all the good right in front of you. And unrelated, I’m so glad I got to meet you in person last week. It’s always so nice to put a real 3D person with someone you know from online :)
I am the opposite way and sometimes I feel as if I need to do what you do: stay at home and work when I feel like working… so this post is somewhat discouraging to me since I often feel guilty for not spending enough time with the kids, not cooking a nice homemade dinner every night, not being a stay-home mom. I work full time as a college professor, I go to school to pursue my doctorate degree and I have two kids ages 2.5 and 11 months. I have a large 4-bedroom hose and a husband who is self-employed and works full-time. With this, we only have a baby-sitter who works every once in a while when we really need her, other than that – it is me or my husband at home with the kids. Needless to say there is not enough hours in a day for me…. I AM jealous of your life. I think that while I try to do my best in being a mom and a wife, I often fail.
Anna.
I think we all feel like we fail, no matter what our situation. I’m beginning to think that just goes with the territory of begin a mom :) I’m sure we’re all probably doing better than we actually feel like we’re doing. . .
I just saw this above my comment and wanted to recommend http://www.30DayPush.com. It is about life balance type stuff and was life-changing for me to go through and you may find helpful – especially with your husband being self-employed!
This is an awesome post! I love how you stay grounded in a world of blogs with sponsored posts everyday. Also, I love how you value your role as mom and wife. I also find myself fighting for contentment with all the pressures of this world. What you are doing is sacred and holy work, which is the opposite of what the world says is important. Thank you for your words of truth today!
I’m right there with ya sister…..I am still blogging for the exact same reason I started. I love creating….reaching out to people but pretty much happy to “stay in Kansas” if you get my drift. I don’t need a book or a product to sell. No time to even focus on that. My blog is a happy place for me:). Good for you keeping it real and focusing on those 5 lucky kids! Sherika.
Yes, but Sherika, I would totally buy your book :)
Please keep doing what you’re doing! You’re one of the few blogs left that I actually care to read because you’re honest and real and aren’t so much about a brand and all that fancy stuff! Keep it up!
Emily,
You’re a real treasure…
This is crazy timing as I was talking about a similar topic on Periscope the other day – monetization as a blogger. Fun stuff right?! Lol ;-) I took all of last year off (for a few reasons) and confessed that the route of making money from ad networks was NOT working for me and was super stressful. I was able to earn more by going the route of affiliate marketing, writing an ebook and creating an online course. I think we are all finding our way and need to give ourselves permission as bloggers to figure out what works best for us and our families – how I was blogging before was SO stressful! Yikes! I love your blog and YOU and everything you stand for. No matter what route you go to bring in an income as a blogger, I think as long as you are genuine, enjoy what you do, and keep your priorities in line, it’s a win all around. Thank you for writing this!
Thanks, Anneke :)
Great Points Emily, I have to agree that although I love sharing what I do and love the appreciation of my readers for my work I find the idea of being a “Big Blogger” a little exhausting. My kids are a bit older (10 and 15) so I’m not having any four year olds on my head at night but the work of mothering is still there. I read some of the big blogs like Decor8 and Emily Henderson who are new moms. They often share their struggle to balance it all and I am overwhelmed (and it’s not even my life.) I’ve only been blogging two years but I still struggle with the guilt of feeling like I have not put out enough posts or I am not being as engaged on Instagram because my son has a big project at school or we took a family trip. But is it really that important in the scheme of things? In reality I am not doing this for fame and fortune so why should it matter? Like you I love design, I love sharing what I’m doing and I love people so what ever I am able to share should be enough. I’m taking you thoughts to heart and remembering to share because it make me happy and be content.
LOVE this post! With your talent, you will have other opportunities arise in your blogging career. I love that you are focused on this important time of life with your kids. In the grand scheme of things, your everyday moments at home are the most important. In the meantime, I’m happy to enjoy the inspiration that comes from your posts!
Yes girl, yes! I love the realness of this post. I too am a mommy and struggle with being content with my life and the odd feeling of being absolutely ok with that! You are beyond talented. Opportunities you want and/or create will be there on your time and when you welcome them. How great is that?
Great read.
xo,
G
I love your blog. And one of the reasons is because you love your blog & are happy blogging & it shows. You’re not trying to use it to further your “brand” or you career & therefor it comes off authentic & real. And that’s why your blog is the first one I check every morning. Glad you enjoy doing it & I hope that’s the case for a long time!
I appreciated this post and I can identify. My kids are 12 and 14. I work from home but always get the you have a degree go use it comments from people. I am content, happy. We could be making more money. I could be finding a career I never had to raise my girls but I don’t really want to. I am happy, my husband is happy and my kids are happy. We do with less but I have so much more of myself to give. Don’t compare yourself, I’m glad you are happy too.
I love all your posts but this is the best thing you’ve ever written! You are obviously more than just a design blogger, but you do what you love and it shows AND makes you stand out!
You go Glen Coco!
:)
Emily
I have been following various blogs for several years. The very first being My Sweet Savannah after seeing her house on Rate My Space many moons ago (is Rate My Space even still a thing?). There were many more that I began to follow. I felt like the bloggers were just normal women like myself, raising their families and making their homes comfortable inviting places to do so. But as you are aware, by your recent post, many have moved on to bigger and grander things (or so it would seem) and guess what, I no longer read their blogs because now these women seem unapproachable and frankly I don’t relate anymore to where they’re at in life. This is not to say that what they’re doing isn’t admirable it just doesn’t translate to my life anymore. So all that to say I’m glad you’re happy with where you’re at and will continue with your blog because yours is one of my favorites. So thank you for what you do.
I totally remember her house on Rate My Space :) I used to spend hours on that site. I posted a couple of my own photos and cringed at the negative feedback. Soon after, I started a blog. Go figure!
I, personally, like and read your blog because you keep it happy, honest, and not chasing the next big thing. It’s so nice to hear you’re happy right where you are. You’re real, I can relate, and I just think you’re awesome. Thank you Emily!
I have been reading your blog for a long time. You are so real! You always remind me to be grateful for my beautiful family (no matter how messy!)
So many women relate to you on so many levels. You are an inspiration!!
I live in Southern California where life is very fast paced and I constantly feel like I am not doing enough or my kids aren’t involved in enough activities. I have been a part of my MOPS group at church for years and I have recently gone to their yearly conference. I love their theme for the year ” A Fierce Flourishing” which means to ” Celebrate Lavishly, Embrace Rest, and Notice Goodness.” This year I am feeling very encouraged to rest and notice the little good things in my life.
Love your post so refreshing to hear!
I love that theme (and need to say it to myself often!).
Brilliant! You seem to appreciate what you have- many people fail to recognize and be grateful for what they have because they are too busy thinking of what they could have. Keep doing what you are doing, Emily. Happiness and contentment are often underrated.
Emily, First your blog is wonderful! I discovered it about 6 months ago. I enjoy reading it every. single.time. You are correct when you state “It is called happiness”. I follow several blogs (actually too many). Over the last year or two year more and more bloggers are branding. Their blogs have become nothing more than self promotions and long advertising spaces that makes the reader question integrity when promoting product after product. Where will these bloggers be in a year or two when their followers slowly disconnect because they have become overwhelmed and frustrated with blogs being nothing more than glorified advertising space. I realize blogging takes a great deal of time and everyone needs to be compensated for time and talents, knowledge and effort. However, it seems many have left their creativity for product endorsement. I love to read a post when I blogger states that they are receiving no compensation for a product in a particular post they just want to share the appreciation of the product. Stay true to yourself and your beautiful family. You are an inspiring example of a business woman who stays true to her family.
Love this. this is the first post of yours that I’ve read (found it through a friend) and this post made me a subscriber.
love hearing this, especially in the wake of several of my favorite bloggers (YHL, dooce) closing up shop.
xo
Great! Thanks for subscribing :)
My favorite post to date! Don’t worry and keep on being happy, it shows!
I always find it so interesting that all of us want to hear about all of you. A satisfying way of reality tv to read. It’s amazing with social media that our comfort zone now IS so public. I remember the days where life was so secretive. Ha, life has changed. This post is one of the few that I find almost a oxymoron. We are writing to say we live and love basic life. But we are sharing this in a blog. Ok. And you know what? This blog did that. Full circle. Yes, it’s wonderful to be normal in our privileged social media life. And to share these thoughts, I love it. But let’s always know how special it is to share these blogs. And, some things are nicely kept, in a blog! lol… Love life.
I love this post. Needed to read it. Thank you, I have struggled with this. I’ve been stressed before and not been able to be the mom I wanted to be. Thankful for the reminder of what really matters most to me.
I love this! I struggle a lot with this in my job…the push is always to do more, more, more to strive to that next promotion or position but honestly I’m quite happy where I am at. I don’t care to be promoted to the next level but I always worry that if I don’t appear to work hard toward that goal will my bosses assume that I’m apathetic? That I have no ambition? Neither are the case…I’m just content with where I am! I think a lot of people don’t get that. You see someone “stuck” in life but maybe that was on purpose because “stuck” can be a really happy, good place.
I love your blog Emily because you are authentic. Many blogs come across as being desperate and trying too hard by coming up with projects just for the blog’s sake. And, I am so, so very grateful that you don’t have all of those annoying gimmicky pop ups on your blog either (like me on Facebook, sign up for my ebook, sign up for a free whatever) that are so annoying!
I can totally relate to motherhood being the most important job in your life right now, because it is for me too. I blogged for awhile and I work outside of the home too. I love to decorate and do DIY projects but I had to stop blogging and slow down the projects because, as much as I want my house to be “finished”, it’s more important to me to not be stressed out and to be completely present for my kids. I’ve also cut back on work because even if I have less money, what I really want is to pick my kids up from school every day, eat breakfast and dinner with them, help them with their homework, walk the dog together, snuggle for some TV time together, and make sure they get to bed on time (they’re teenagers). These are the things that make me happiest. Even more so than designer pillows on a white slip covered sofa :)
Your blog is lovely, inspiring and like visiting a friend every day. Please don’t change a thing!
I love when “Emily A Clark” comes into my inbox. I love the randomness of your posts, the beauty, the thoughts, your children, etc. I love the fact that the supposed simpleness of your blog makes you happy – it makes me happy, too! Keep on doing what you love.
Thank you, Kat. My favorite comment of the day :)
You’ve encouraged me in many ways. I started following design blogs in 2009(ish) and you are my favorite. The only one I read consistently now. I “became” a SAHM about a year ago and the things you’ve made a point to write about motherhood and faith and career have meant so much to me. I look up to you and I appreciate you keeping the blog going despite other things you could be doing. I’ve been inspired by your style while decorating my first single-girl condo, a few temporary housing situations in first years of marriage, and now my permanent 1970’s home. Thanks for all!
Autumn, thanks for such a sweet comment. So glad you enjoy the blog!
Good for you for finding your happy place! Thank you for this post. I enjoy reading your blog and seeing all the great ideas and pictures you post.