I try to keep my posts more about decorating and less about blogging itself, but I wondered if we could just talk about what’s going on behind the scenes for a minute. I’m guessing most of you who read design blogs on a regular basis heard about John and Sherry’s decision to take an indefinite break last week. (For those of you who have no idea what I’m talking about, they’re like the superstars of home blogging with books and a line of products at Target, the whole deal. And, they quit. For a while. Forever??) Stepping away from blogging is a whole new ballgame. Blogging in itself is so new that I’m not sure anyone knows how to quit just yet. (Not that I’m thinking about it myself, but it doesn’t seem like the kind of job you can do forever. . .)
I totally understand that people change and people need to make changes, take breaks, etc. But, I have to wonder if part of the reason they’ve lost their enthusiasm has to do with the changing environment of blogging itself. I wish I could tell you it’s all playing with pretty flowers and perfectly chopped pillows, but it’s not. It’s work. It’s fun. It’s discouraging. It’s wonderful. It’s time consuming. It’s exciting. Oh, and did I tell you that it’s work?
It’s also a little scary. You’re putting your creative thoughts (and often your family and home) out there for open criticism. That doesn’t get less scary with time. Maybe it even gets a little worse. If you’ve been successful in the past, there’s that pressure to continue to produce—like any other job. And, if you’re already a perfectionist or a people-pleaser by nature, it can cause a lot of self-induced stress on top of it all. I realize blogging is pretty much asking for public opinion and don’t mind criticism overall, if it actually has to do with what I’m writing about. But, the Internet has given a lot of people a voice that would never be brave enough to have one in real life—and that’s not always a good thing. It’s something I just try to ignore and keep in perspective, if I even do see it. In my experience, real life mean people are way scarier than Internet mean people, anyway.
Then, there’s also the whole issue of money. When I started blogging, I did it happily and (mostly) for free. Little blog traffic in the beginning means little ad money, no sponsors, and very few companies wanting to send you products to share with your (ten) readers. So, for those that stick with it and start to gain a following over time, it’s exciting when those offers and opportunities come your way. Who wouldn’t be happy about that? I totally get most readers aren’t looking to read a blog that’s one big advertisement. It’s like the gigantic fashion mags that are 95% ads. Kind of a bummer. But, I also think bloggers should get paid (without shame) for the work they put into their jobs. I do accept sponsored posts on a semi-regular basis because it’s often a wonderful chance for me to share something worthwhile with you while also contributing to my family. I always try to share those products and companies that I would actually use and am pretty picky about what I’ll pass along to you. If I wasn’t, you’d see all kinds of “interesting” things on here. . . I promise.(That would be a funny post in itself!)
We all hear about how much blogging has changed over the last few years. I think it’s true of the writers and the readers. We’re all busier, with less time to comment and encourage. I read most of my favorite blogs quickly while sitting in the drive-thru or car line, so I get it. I don’t expect accolades every day, but I will be honest with you. It’s sometimes discouraging if you only hear or see the negative. (Kind of like motherhood.) You can start to believe that no one likes what you’re doing and feel like maybe you’re just wasting your time. Of course, I know that’s not what the majority of you think or feel. Or else, why would you visit here? I still believe most readers are genuinely nice and appreciative of the ideas I share. And, I consider you friends.
When I do receive a short email saying thanks, or meet someone that has read my blog for years faithfully, it reminds me of why I do this and why I still love doing it so much after almost five years. I promise you that any blogger (or person, for that matter) would appreciate a quick word of encouragement over a $1.25 RewardStyle commission any day. I need to do better with the whole encouragement thing, myself.
Maybe I should have just skipped this post altogether. But, I’ve been wanting to share some of these thoughts with you for a while. And, between Young House Love and this article all in one week, it seemed like the time to talk about it.
(Best wishes to John, Sherry and their family during their time off. Thanks for navigating this blogging thing for the rest of us.)
photo credit: Caroline Lima Photography
Hi Emily, Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I enjoy reading your blog. I often wonder how you have time to do it all. You inspire me to keep pushing forward and make small changes around the house that make you smile in the mist of all the other clutter.
Very well said. I enjoy your blog and have always wondered how people that blog successfully do it with children in tow. I have three kids and consider myself lucky if I shower every day. You and your blog are very much appreciated by me. I may be just one reader, but I enjoy your posts and your perspective. I wish you the best!
Well said Emily. Glad you shared this today :).
Hear! Hear! Well said. I cannot imagine keeping up with my blog on a daily basis (or even a weekly basis!). The negative comments are such a drag and really don’t make blogging seem perfect. I realized that I am reading more blogs and don’t always post comments but I’m going to make an effort again. Just because people aren’t commenting, doesn’t mean we aren’t here!
Hi Emily! Well said. I so respect John and Sherri for taking time to figure out what is best for their family and their blogging future. As a fairly new blogger – only a year and a bit in – I do find it exciting to watch my follower numbers climbing, however, I also feel a bit overwhelmed by it all. There is this obvious expectation to produce and life isn’t always conducive to that, such as right now, for me. That expectation does tend to take some of the fun out of it for sure! I really love blogging, and all the facets of it, but it seems that you must stop and reevaluate now and then, no? Great post, great blog!
I rarely comment, because like you, I am busy too. But I do appreciate the pretty things you show me, the glimpses of your adorable, funny kids and the honesty of this post. Thanks, Emily!
Emily – Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. Especially the ones on being a new blogger, and working your little tail off, and wishing that sponsors would show up and you’d get more readers, and realizing that it’s WORK! However, it’s fun! And I’m sure if your blogging career goes to where you want it to, you may need a break, or you may not. But it’s nice to know that others feel the same.
I need to get better at commenting on the blogs I read daily, but like you, I’m usually reading them quickly as a break from my workday. The truth is, I very much appreciate all the work you do and enjoy seeing what you’re doing around your house. Your style is approachable and doable which is just the inspiriation I need to make lots of small cahnges (that add up to big changes) in my home. Your paint colors are my paint colors are my paint colors :) I’ve gotten so many ideas from your blog. I think until John and Sherry’s decision to take a break we all took the daily contnet for gratned – I do hope they will come back, even if it will be different going forward. Maybe it needs to be. Thanks again for all you do!
Thank you for sharing- I love your blog and posts not just for the great style you have but for your HONESTY. Sometimes mothers and wives look at pictures of perfectly styled homes from yes, sometimes condescending designers (they are out there) with their perfect children and immaculate spaces and think we can’t possibly achieve that look. I love that you share your “behind the scenes” insights of stashing toys and clutter before photo shoots and that sometimes you are holding babies and juggling kids while trying to work-and that while beautiful-your house is a HOME that a family LIVES in. Like everyone else’s home sometimes messy and chaotic but styled in the most important element of love. As mothers we set the bar so high for ourselves and it’s nice that you debunk the illusion of perfection that design pictures and posts sometimes portray. On a side note I’m also told by my sweet Aunt Dona that you are a pretty awesome person in everyday life as well so that makes your blog even more appealing than others to me. :) Ignore the haters and criticism when you see it and remember that if what you were doing wasn’t positive and relevant, your business wouldn’t be growing by leaps and bounds. :)
Emily,
Your blog is one of three I visit regularly and I know that you will always be authentic and not put on a voice you are not owning as your very own, if that makes sense. You are not trying to sell anything or attract clients. If you share a product, then you show us a useful one with possibility. I know that whatever you highlight has merit. I have often wondered how does Emily do this, day in and day out. You are genuinely engaged in creating beauty. Even the small stuff matters! I so appreciate that thoughtfulness.
I have stopped reading a lot of decor blogs or visit them rarely for all kinds of reasons. They just don’t have the Emily pull for me.
I love your blog. You have beautiful taste and I appreciate how real you are.
I love your blog because your posts are short, interesting, inspiring and fun. There is always something I can learn from your ideas. Keep up the good work!
Emily,
I am not one to comment often, usually because it takes too much time :) But I just wanted to say I am a faithful reader of your blog and I absolutely love you and your posts. Really, you are one of the few blogs I want to read every day. So THANK YOU for all you put into blogging. You are so talented, I love your authenticity, your faith, and your kids (totally makes me feel more normal haha). Thank you for writing this. I never thought about the blogger side. Sorry for the times I didn’t let you know how much I appreciate your work….so here’s a big “thank you and we love you, Emily!”
Hi Emily. Thank you for your honesty. I really needed to read this today. I’ve been blogging myself for a little less than a year now. Even though blogging has become my creative outlet and I enjoy doing it, it sure is a lot of work. I struggle to balance my family life (I have two little boys), creative pursuits, and blogging, and I was wondering how I could do them all. It’s hard to justify the time I spend on internet when I’m not getting paid and contribute to the family. Thank you, Emily, for sharing your thoughts. You’ve got me really thinking today…
I love love love your blog and read every post. You always share the best things, and you have a beautiful home. AND you’ve helped me make MY home more beautiful over time! Much love to you!
I only read a few blogs, but yours is my favorite. It combines the things I love most–family and home.
I really enjoy your blog. As a blog follower for a while I have noticed the shift in the bloggospher. I really do enjoy your blog and I hope you continue to inspire your community of supporters!
I love your blog! Have been following it for years but I rarely comment. Just wanted to let you know I look forward to your posts. I noticed a lot of my favorite blogs dropping off and it makes me sad but I understand. I’ve considered blogging myself but can’t find the time with four kids that I homeschool. I am in awe of how bloggers do it all. Just know that your work is appreciated very much!
After several of my favorite bloggers have recently taken breaks or gone on a more permanent hiatus, I’ve been trying to go around at least weekly and leave a nice note in the comment section. While I can’t imagine writing anything negative, it comes so easily to some…Crazy!
Keep up the beautiful work that you do, it is definitely appreciated!
Another faithful reader here, just want to drop a word of encouragement. Yours & Young House Love are the only design blogs I’ve stuck with for any length of time.
I applaud John & Sherry for being brave enough to step away and re-evaluate things. It’s something every blogger needs to be able to do
I don’t get a chance to read your blog everyday but there are several of your ideas I’ve used in my home. One of my favorites is when you took the doors off your kitchen cabinets. I had wanted to do that for a long time and you have me the final inspiration. I spent a whole wonderful day on that project. You’re one of the few bloggers out there that are also trying to work with wood toned cabinets. Also I just sent a link to one of your Saturday 6 suggestions to a friend that’s having her cabinets painted. The picture was white cabinets with gray on the bottom. Love! I wish I could do that but we have very nice wood colored cabinets and with five kids it’s easier to touch up marks with a stain pen than haul out the paint. Anyway, just wanted to let you know there are people out there that like your ideas and benefit from them! Thanks for sharing! :)
I agree with the above comments, I am a faithful reader but don’t comment here a lot. I love the content of your blog and love to see how you make your home suitable for your family. It gives me great ideas and hope for my home. Thanks for writing, keep doing it the way that makes you happy and brings you the most fulfillment.
Emily,
I too am one who reads quickly yet never comments. I want you to know how much I enjoy reading your blog. You keep life real, and I really don’t know how you manage to post almost daily with how busy life is these days!
I apprecaite you sharing and a little piece of your perspective.
In the early hours of the morning before my house has risen, I find joy with my coffee and your blog.
Thanks for sharing and I’m looking forward to further post, but I get it this is you’re life too.
Very well said, Emily. In an effort to declutter my life, I deleted a bunch of blogs from my reader yesterday. I kept yours for several reasons, your honesty being one of them. I read your posts and think “I can do that” or “That’s the kind of mess my kids make too” and I leave feeling that the sense of home is what matters, not buying the latest home decor trend. You make decorating a home seem real and accessible, and I appreciate that very much. I respect John & Sherry’s decision to step back if that’s what feels right to them. Life is too short to do anything less than that.
Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts. Your blog is one of my favorites, and I really appreciate your honesty and your great ideas!
So true! I’m not a blogger, but love reading some of them. Like you said, it’s amazing the things people will say when they are hiding behind a computer. I couldn’t handle reading any rude comments :) Love your blog!
Wow, I never saw that coming from John and Sherry…but I understand. I was never a big name blogger but was getting approached more and more for sponsored posts, reviews, etc and felt that my blog was losing its appeal to me. I did not want it to be a job but a hobby. I now blog for myself and to connect with those true loyal readers (who many have become great friends!). I blog when I feel like it and blog only what truly appeals to me.
That being said, I LOVE your blog and have been reading since you started. I love your authenticity, voice and style!
Although I’ve loved your blog for a very long time, I rarely comment because it never occurred to me that someone I admire so much might need me to speak up once and a while and say I appreciate you! And I do, and I’m sorry for my oversight because duh! who doesn’t need a little validation, no matter how awesome and amazing they are, when they invest this much time and energy into something. Your blog has influenced my life in a very positive way and I’m so thankful for you being willing to share yourself with all of us on this side of the screen. While there are a lot of blogs on my list, there are only a small handful that I read every, single post – yours and Sherry & John’s are on that list. While I completely support their break, it makes me sad to consider a day when people who feel like friends to me, might disappear permanently from my life.
Thank you. Thank you for the beautiful ideas and inspiration you share with us on a regular basis. I have enjoyed your blog for such a while but only recently commented on your home tour feature. I’m sorry I haven’t commented more often. And thank you for such an honest post, as a relatively new blogger, with a million fears and insecurities, it is reassuring to know that even the veterans feel this way.
Hi, Emily, I never comment on your blog, but I have been a huge fan for years. I guess I just didn’t realize you might actually want input from readers (after all, you are the expert here). Your blog has to be the most helpful and insightful when it comes to home decorating. I definitely believe your guidance and insight has led me to make lots of decorating decisions in my home ( and all of them have led to major improvements around here). Thank you for all you do.
Hi Emily! I am a long time reader and I am sorry to admit but I never comment. Love your design and DIY ideas and always love to see posts about your family– your kids are adorable! Thanks for blogging! (I will say that I wish your full posts showed up on my feedly as it did in the past…)
Hi Emily,
I love reading your Blog. I look forward to having my coffee and reading your blog. I love your ideas, but I totally understand about the pressure. Hang in there!
I read your blog because you are clever and creative. You have a wonderful eye for design and decorating. I don’t have that creative eye but I can appreciate (and imitate) your vision. I also appreciate your honesty and genuineness. This is real life – home, kids, money constraints, time constraints. It’s not a competition but a sharing community. You share with honesty and humor; what’s not to like? Thanks for doing it (and I would be sad if you stopped).
Great post Emily this is good for people. I can only imagine what it takes to run a huge blog like Young House Love or even keep at it for five years like you have. After a year of blogging I have new respect all those amazing bloggers out there that have kept at it for so long. It IS hard work and a job that most of us bloggers do for free. I don’t know that those people that spout negativity even consider that or the fact that there is a person on the other end of the mean comments. On the other hand those supportive constructive comments are an amazing way to meet and make friends with people all over the world. Glad I got to meet up with you!
Great post girl! I think there’s this myth out there that blogging is an easy job. It may be fun and often times rewarding, but it’s not easy.
I don’t think I’ve ever commented here, but I want you to know that I love reading your blog. I appreciate your honesty and I’ve often wished we were neighbors. (Is that creepy?) I admire your talent and appreciate the time you put into your job. Thanks for always making my day a little brighter!
First, love your blog! I keep seeing bloggers post that John and Sherry have quit or the blog is going black indefinitely but they said in their own post that they are taking a break for about a month. I also think there is a difference between a blog as a hobby (and possibly supplemental income) and one as a business. I have been a long time reader of John and Sherry, I am not a “hater” of theirs, but their blog is their business and they made that choice. They are making a lot of money, the readers are their customers and they need to take that into consideration. A lot of people feel that things have changed a lot and not for the better and that they’ve been “phoning it in” for awhile, so I think it is good that they evaluate what they want to do moving forward, just like anyone might do in a traditional job where they change careers or go to another company. It will be interesting to see what happens!
Although I respect your opinion, Julie, I just want to give some differing views on your comments:
1) Using the word “customer” would imply that money was spent in exchange for a good or service. All readers invest is time. And if anyone feels that a particular blog does not provide good value for time spent now or ever, they can simply just leave that blog for what it is and let other people enjoy it. I know that readers are an essential ingredient for a blog to become a success (no readers, no sponsors), but why not let stats do the talking so sponsors can decide whether a blog would provide a good return on monetary investment. To YHL’s credit, they actually invited feedback and I feel they are always very considerate of their readers to ensure they keep ‘in touch’ with what people are interested in.
2) Yes, some lucky bloggers are fortunate to be good enough to eventually be able to make it a business and primary or only source of income, but blogging really isn’t like any other type of job now is it (coming from a non-blogger). Bloggers often let us look into their personal lives for all to judge. Brave if you ask me… Why criticise them for the content or frequency with which they post. They don’t owe us anything.
3) Why do people feel the need to look inside other people’s pockets. It is simply none of our business how much or little someone makes from their job. It shouldn’t be a cause for expectation. If you paid a monthly subscription for it, then by all means criticise the content if you feel the price is too high for what you get. But why ever reflect on someone’s income…?
4) And finally, re the comment that a lot of people felt YHL were phoning it in lately… If that is considered phoning it in…wow… They were and are still one of the best blogs out there and the sample of comments I read left in response to their last post show an overwhelming majority agree with that sentiment.
Anyway…I like it when there is some constructive ‘discussion’ on the points made in Emily’s post (thanks Emily!), so please take my response in that way… I’m simply challenging your views with those of my own… It’s all subjective after all! :-)
Just want you to know that you’re doing a great job and I enjoy your blog very much. I really admire the fact that you can do it with five kids. I would really miss your blog if you decided it wasn’t worth the angst. I haven’t figured out why some people can be snarky. I compare it to writing a snarky letter to BHG after they have given you a free lifetime subscription to the magazine.
I was just thinking yesterday (as I read your blog, which I visit everyday) that you’re the only authentic voice of all the blogs I read. I never feel like you’re trying to put on a show or prove to us that you are someone you’re not. You’re honest, fun, and creative. I love your blog and am happy that you continue to share your life and smart ideas with us!
What a great post – way to go girl for bravely writing it! You said what so many are thinking. Blogging is NOT all a bed of roses and toile! I go back and forth on whether to press on or hang it up but basically have given myself a ‘pass’ and write when I want and that’s OK.
I totally loved your comment about the products/services you ‘could’ endorse!!! I can only imagine!
xo~Jill
Hi Emily,
I read your blog daily and very much enjoy it. I am wondering if there is a way to set up your posts so that we can “like” them, kind of Facebook style, for those of us who love what you do, but don’t always have time for comments?
Hmmmm… Not sure. That’s a great idea, though. I’d use that feature a lot for the blogs I read.
Hi Emily,
I enjoy your blog and many other design blogs very much. I seldom comment or ask questions as I’m not a designer and don’t have a blog and therefore feel that others have more valid things to say than I do. But I too have lately read how hateful some comments can be and that, to my surprise, bloggers do like feedback. I also think it’s great that there are ways to get paid for all the good advice and enjoyment you bring your readers. Thanks, and I will be better about commenting from time to time.
I understand completely. We just moved and I feel the pressure to share. I’m feeling like I want my privacy this time around but yet I’m so used to blogging all these years. What to do. Sigh.
Thank you for posting! I appreciate your style, your positive attitude, and I love hearing the latest with your adorable children. Your home is lovely and inspirational. I absolutely think you and other bloggers deserve to be paid for the time you put in to your work on your blog. Have a great day!
Well said and insightful! Thanks for working so hard! As with much online content, visitors feel “entitled” to view/use a blogger’s content for free and then make it known when they’re unhappy… seems backwards to me! John and Sherri at YHL are allowed to do whatever makes them happy and makes sense for them… who am I to say? They’re great, but since I view their content for free I really have no say in what they should do… :) I wish them and you and all bloggers well!! Thanks Emily for your honest and engaging content. It’s always fab!
(CAUTION – long comment.) I love your blog and I love when a new post pops up on my Bloglovin feed. I have never understood when people make nasty personal comments on blogs. I see this happen on Houzz quite often. Many times I see rooms/homes that aren’t to my personal taste, but never would I go out of my way to insult their work. On the flipside, I most often see homes that are my dream spaces, but usually don’t take time to praise either. (Bad on me for not commenting the positive). The following is my personal observation as a blog-aholic. It may be taken with a grain of salt and is not meant to reflect what others feel.
The biggest thing I find disconcerting about many blogs that I’ve followed for years aren’t the ads sitting quietly on the side, but the ads that make me question whether or not to visit the site again. I just visited two very popular sites this morning (not going to say the names because I don’t want to scare people off). My virus protection threw up a warning on one saying a site had been blocked because a malicious code was identified. (The url was one of the ad feeds..not the site’s url.) The next site was scarier. After a few minutes of reading the post an ad suddenly started up a video with audio blasting. I had walked away from my computer and heard it in another room. When I returned to the computer I couldn’t exit the site. My entire computer was frozen. Even ctrl/alt/delete wouldn’t get me out. I had to power down and hard boot back up.
I’m not sure if bloggers have control over which ads are fed in, but it is increasingly becoming a side way of sites placing malicious codes into computers whether or not the actual ad is clicked. It used to be rare, but now it happens at least once a week. That is more often than I’m comfortable with. Do bloggers have control over their ad feeds? Should we comment when this happens? Do ads originated from one source? (It wasn’t your site, btw.) I’m not sure how the ads work, but it may be something that bloggers need to be aware of. If they are originating from one source, then perhaps it is a quality control issue that bloggers needs to address.
On the flipside, I don’t mind sponsored posts. I don’t mind ads on the side. I understand with that much work bloggers should be compensated for their time. I just don’t want to have to sort through ads dropping down in front of the post, across the top of the post, and hitting me when I accidently mouse over an underlined word in the actual post while I’m trying to read the blogger’s words.
I have also quit following blogs when almost every post has nothing to do with the person anymore. Many have maybe one post a week that is personal and every other one is something very impersonal to fill up space. I know bloggers are told to be successful you must post something every day. For me, this simply isn’t true. I don’t even bother anymore clicking on posts featuring weekly linky parties. It seems that every blogger I faithfully follow has started hosting one a week and they all contain the same links as every other blog’s linky party. If you’ve seen one, you have basically seen them all. I now screen those days through Bloglovin and mark it “read” without going to the site. I just don’t have the time to click through all those links. I especially don’t have the time to click through the SAME links on ten different blogs.
I do love the blogs where I feel like I’m sitting down with a friend and sharing my morning coffee. Even some of the big-name blogs have managed to keep that feeling for me. (Pioneer Woman and Life in Grace are two that come to mind.) I think readers can tell if a post was created to fill up space or it if it is something they truly want to share. I also don’t mind blog posts that feature other bloggers work, places I’ve never been, recipes from other sites that I wouldn’t have found, books they are reading, or featured home tours from other bloggers.
I guess it comes down to whether your blog is about a passion or whether it has simply become a front for a business. If it is the latter, then expectations for a high-quality product reflecting the brand are going to be higher. For a reader it is the difference between feeling like you are a guest in someone’s home/life or you are a customer visiting their storefront. I personally like it when bloggers keep it real and I feel like a guest.
I enjoy your blog. I sincerely hope this didn’t come across as a criticism of you. Please forgive the long comment. I think these are things that some bloggers don’t hear from their readers, but maybe need to know. Keep up the good work. I do enjoy your blog.
Hi Dee, Thanks for thoughtful comment. I read every word :) and appreciate the feedback. As for those ads you’re talking about, I would let those bloggers know. They’re most likely being filled by a particular ad network they’re working with and the blogger may have no idea what’s popping up. I’ve had some “questionable” ads pop up on mine that I only knew about because a reader emailed me. I was then able to contact my ad network directly. Hope that helps!
Dee, I could not have said it better myself. It feels like a lot of Bloggers these days have a lot of pressure to keep putting out newer and more content. I enjoy both the big projects and the little shuffling around of items, but most of all getting to know the person, and the families behind the blogs. I’m also a strong believer if you have nothing nice to say, then say nothing at all…Emily, I think you have a fantastic sense of style!
I like the idea of a like kind of button for posts as mentioned above. It will let the bloggers know what is working and what may not be as popular a post. Keeps the time to a minimum and gives you some feedback.
Love you blog, I have copied many ideas as I am not gifted in the area of design and love your taste. Keep up the good work!!
gosh I know! I am really sad about their decision to take a break. but not surprised. I went back to the comment section on the post they were talking about and read what this one commenter said. Honestly I just don’t get it. Here they are, going along making a living with their blog and doing the best they can and they ask for some feedback and get ripped up! I will miss them because I love seeing things go from this – to this. I love the before and afters, and I love seeing young people make their house a home. I truly enjoy your blog, Emily – I love seeing the kids growing up and I love your design eye. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this subject. I do believe blogging has changed in the past couple of years. Even though I have a blog I am more of a blog reader than a blog posters (if you know what I mean) and I have noticed the change that has taken place in a lot of the blogs I read. Lots of sponsored post. Some that I feel were just done for the money, not because it was something the blogger truly loved or ever used before. When I get that icky feeling then I probably just stop visiting their blog – but would Never leave unkind comments. I think the numbers speak for themselves. I am totally rambling here, but when it comes to readers who leave snarky comments, I always wonder.. why do they feel like they are owed something? Nobody’s holding a gun to their head to make them read a blog…? Anyway – thanks for the opportunity to speak my mind on the subject :)
Thank you so much for sharing this. I love sharing my ideas on my blog, but I totally agree that it is work (a lot of work) and there is always pressure to be better. It’s hard to not take the negative stuff personally because your blog is personal, but it does make all the positive comments that much sweeter. Keep up the great work!
I started reading your blog a few months ago and really enjoy it. I feel like you bring a slightly more traditional style to the YHL style which is a good balance. I completely modeled our foyer on your ideas (duel lamps, black, navy, green) and it looks awesome! I was in shock wtih YHL’s decision and I hope it isn’t permentant, please don’t follow suit! I wish YHL listened to taylor swift and shook it off.
I think they weren’t leaving because people were being offensive but mostly because of burn out. They mentioned that their work had felt forced for awhile.
Very well said my friend. We are all in uncharted territory and that can certainly add to the stress level. As long as you remain authentic, which I think you always have, then you can take pride in what you do. No matter if others always agree or not. Thanks for writing this today.
Thank you for sharing this with us Emily! A lot of non-bloggers don’t realize that blogging is a lot of work! And time, and money and all the things you said. I was sad to see John and Sherry take a step back, but totally understand why they did it, and respect them for their decision. I’ve been blogging for under 2 years and while I don’t have a lot of reach yet, I really enjoy it. Yes it’s work, but it’s fun. Much more fun than my actual day job. :)
Love your blog! Keep doing you. :)
I am another of the “too busy to comment” readers, so this is my first comment on your blog. However, I wanted to take the time to let you know that yours is one of the blogs that I read even when I am too busy to read all the others. I love your style and your honesty. I also appreciate the fact that your style isn’t unattainable ($100 per yard fabric??) and not completely impossible with children in the house. So thank you for doing what you do. =)
I’m sorry that I’ve never left a comment before–it really didn’t occur to me that blogging was really hard and the positive comments can make a difference. But I do read your blog regularly. I consider you a very trustworthy blogger. You manage to give really great design ideas while still being realistic. I think you handle sponsored posts well–I’ve never gotten the feeling you were recommending a product you wouldn’t otherwise use. I love your style and voice. Thanks for all your hard work! (And I have five kids, too. That’s why I started reading this blog–when you were pregnant with your twins, I think–because I thought, “She has great taste and five kids? That’s my kind of girl!”)
I think you should know, Emily, that your blog is the first one I voluntarily pull up every day. Voluntary as in I don’t “do” bloglovin or subscribe by email — I have my list of blog bookmarks and pick from them each day as to what I’m in the mood for — and I’m always in the mood for you!
Hi Emily~
I am guilty of reading your blog and enjoying it but not taking the time to comment and say how much I like your ideas, decor suggestions and wisdom posts. I am not a blogger but follow many blogs for decor ideas like YHL. I loved what you wrote today because it makes me appreciate all the hard word you put in when you have time to blog. I am really close to stop following certain bloggers that shall remain nameless if they ask their readers to try certain oils, like their out fit of the day and then have the same circle of bloggers like their outfits because they look “skinny” and how cool it was to shop at certain stores etc. Your doing a great job and I think your one of the few blogs that says a lot without pushing it. I understand the need for ads and recommending sponsored products and you always do it tastefully.
Well, I love your blog and read it regularly, so I hope you don’t feel that your work isn’t appreciated or not worthwhile. Your Saturday 6 posts are always great reads, and your taste and style are always fresh and interesting to see come to life. I know what you mean though – the tides are turning, but I really enjoy the blogs I read (while writing one myself), and would be very sad if they became a thing of the past.
I’m a new follower via Pinterest and your ever so popular accessorizing pins. I so appreciate the amount of effort you put into this blog and have really enjoyed exploring it. Although this post was due to a sad farewell in your blogging community, I had never visited their blog and have since really enjoyed looking at the projects and ideas they’ve posted over the years.
Just wanted to pop in and say that I read your blog and love it! I don’t often comment on blogs because I’m busy, feel like they don’t really need my opinion, and it is frustrating because a lot of blogs don’t open their comments to name/url, they are only open to people who have Blogger or Google accounts to log into for commenting.
Keep up the good work!
Very well said! I appreciate your honesty in your posts and I know when I come to your blog, I am getting the real girl. I think that’s what keeps so many of us coming back. It feels as if we know you. Don’t change!! :)
Emily, I never post as well but felt like I had to chime in. I look forward to reading your posts and love the quick design tips and new ways to rediscover and display objects around our home. I have two kids and work and have no idea how you find the time to do it all. Keep up the good work!
I too was shocked when John and Sherry went on hiatus for a while! But then I thought that maybe it’s a good time for littler blogs to get attention that often just goes to the big names. The blogging world is hard to break into and even harder to keep up with the big guns. And now that people don’t comment as often you can feel like no one is paying attention or reading. I totally appreciated your words in this post and am anxious to see how things shake out with Young House Love.
Another faithful, daily reader here – thanks for all the free inspiration you’ve shared with me over the past few years. My home would be MUCH less stylish without you! :)
I wouldn’t miss a day, sweet Emily! I think Instagram has changed the way we comment, it’s quick and easy and I don’t always feel the necessity to comment both places for bloggers to know I love them or their post. : )
Excellent post Emily!
I thoroughly enjoy your blog! You are lovely with the perfect dose of whit. I have 4 kids (2 of which are B/G 20-month-old twins) so I feel I relate to your blog on many levels. Keep up the awesomeness!
Hi Emily, Thank you for your blog which, among only seven total blogs (including YHL’s), I read each and every day. I have written some comments to you in appreciation before and wanted to write again today. I would love to visit your booth one day, too, when I visit my friends who recently moved to Huntersville, NC probably somewhere near your area in Charlotte. :)
I’ve never written a mean, negative comment on any blog even if I didn’t like the post at all. I can not fathom the ignorance or the motivation to do so! Perhaps it’s that I love the Lord and I love people too much to do such a non-constructive thing. I just “move-on” if it doesn’t interest me.
It could also reflect my generation’s ways of showing appreciation of things—we’re known to actually mail a note “with a stamp and everything”, haha. That’s unheard-of today, with all the emphasis on “what feels right for ME”. (Also, from the looks of it, many “haters” write just because, apparently, they like to see commenters all “riled-up” and defensive about the bloggers we love.)
I’m in my mid-sixties so I’m in that 1% demographic for blog readers. Hope your thoughtful post will generate some respectful conversations, genuine appreciation for you, and more reflection in the hearts of commenters’ hearts. Love your blog, and your philosophy of doing everything in your life with your sweet family. My son and his wife have five boys and one girl so I love to see how y’all do things, along with seeing your amazing house ideas, too. Thanks again…….Karen in Virginia
I’m another long time reader who rarely comments anymore. My reader (feedly) now requires me to click through to read your articles and I just don’t always have time… lame, I know! Anyway, just wanted to say that you are one of the few blogs I still read. I think you balance the ads/sponsored posts with real content well. There are so many blogs that I used to enjoy that are now just big advertisements. I really don’t want to visit one of my favorite home blogs to find a list of rstyle links and lists of stores that are running sales.
Sorry this is turning in to a rant. Long story short, I still really enjoy your blog. I feel like you are still connected to your readers and your blog posts (like the one above) are just like chatting with a girlfriend over coffee. Keep on doing what your doing!
I discovered your blog several years ago and I continue to follow you regularly where I have stopped others because your style is classic and modern enough to appeal to me. I don’t particularly enjoy watching everyone’s travels and advertisements. I get that you need to make a living and am glad that you continue. I also think your posts and instagrams with your family are so fun.
Thank you for what you do
I love your blog! I’ve commented before and you have been SO helpful. What I like most about your blog is your ability to get across your “true” self – even if it’s your blog self, it’s so authentic. I can’t BELIEVE those horribly mean comments in the Elle article – that is just appalling and bad manners! It’s one thing to give constructive criticism…. Anyway, keep on blogging, and I hope that you can see from the comments how appreciated you are!
Loved this honest post. I totally get it. I started my blog in 2009 and used to post more frequently but have sort of trailed off these past few years… People always ask me why I’m not blogging as often anymore but it’s hard to explain to people who don’t have blogs who don’t really get it. But blogging can be tiresome and a bit of a drag sometimes. (And obviously fun too – but there are two sides of the coin.) So, thanks for this!
Also thought this was an appropriate time to tell you how much I love your site! I read every post through bloglovin (often on my phone) so it’s hard to comment, but just so you know, I really enjoy your style (both in decorating and writing) and look forward to seeing what new content you post!
Two thumbs up! I enjoy having your blog delivered to my inbox. Sometimes i don’t have time to click on it, but when i do, i do. Its like visiting or chatting with a friend for awhile. And your post today is inspiring me to go back to posting on my own blog. Thanks!
Thank you for the post. This is the first comment I’ve ever left and I am truly sorry. I take you inspiration every day without so much as a thank you. My mother would be ashamed! Thank you for your lovely blog and hard work. You’ve inspired so many projects in my home. I just finished painting a garage sale secretary urbane bronze all due to your blog!
Dear Emily,
Thanks so much for a timely article. One of the things that worries me the most about life is the increasing nasty negativeness that is invading everything, including something that should be enjoyable, like decorating blogs. Why does anyone chose to share those kinds of comments? What is so hateful about a person’s heart that, instead of just not following a blog you don’t care for, one chooses instead to write such nastiness? Its as though manners and civil politeness don’t even exist anymore.
I felt terrible about Sherry and John, and I am only a blog reader. I probably follow at least 20 blogs but I don’t always have time to read them all, or that day’s post doesn’t appeal to me, so…I just don’t read them that day. Decorating, cooking or whatever the blog should appeal to many people but not necessarily the same person every single day. Yes it is business, but its also an enjoyable activity so where does such negative thought enter?
I just want you to know I enjoy your blog immensely. I might check it quickly on my phone or read it more thoroughly with my morning coffee. But, I have continued to follow it faithfully and I enjoy when you share your experience with a product. It helps me learn not only how to do something but also what tools to use. It gives me resources I might otherwise not know about. I think its wonderful you might be paid to do that….you obviously put a lot of effort into your blog. Congratulations on a great job!
I’m another infrequent commenter, but I just wanted you to know that your blog is one of my absolute favorites. I love your style, love your down-to-earth personality, and love how you maintain your sense of humor about doing it all with small kids in tow. So just . . . thank you. :-)
Thank you for sharing your heart Emily. I had been wondering why I hadn’t seen John and Sherry’s posts lately. I’ve been super busy with the kids back in school and have missed a few reads from my favorite bloggers, like them. I love your blog posts also, and a few other bloggers too, but don’t comment or encourage often enough. At least that’s what I am realizing now that I’ve read your entry. I think it’s because so many other readers comment on a blog that I don’t think mine will make much difference or get a response. So I don’t because I’m busy or in a rush. But I will do better. Keep up the excellent blog. I actually wait for your posts to show up in my inbox around 3 pm most days! May God bless you and your family!
Emily, thank you for sharing this. I was wondering why no one in blogland was addressing the situation at YHL that happened. I have read their blog from the beginning and yours for the past couple of years. I was absolutely crushed by the accusations and hate that was flung at them, and just knew deep in my heart that they would step away….
I am so thankful for blogs like theirs and yours that keep me inspired and energized. I also have five kids like you, 3 older boys and the youngest are also twins (girls) (ages 11 to 21). I completely understand how much work you must invest to putting up each post, and although I do not comment, I am always happy to find a minute to check in with “you”. As someone who also runs a creative business, I also often only hear when something is wrong and less so when something is great. I think that is a big problem with the internet in general and the dialogue of our society as a whole.
So, from me, great job on the blog, and thank you for having the courage to spotlight what happened on YHL. I hope that it does not scare off other amazing bloggers!! Keep on doing what you are doing. You are one of the first blogs I check every single morning.
Hi Emily! Well said! I don’t have my own blog and may never have one, because I’m a little freaked out about sharing too much and putting too much out there for people. I love writing and I love decorating and organizing my home, so I think I’d have something worthwhile to share, but will probably never pull the plug and do it. I didn’t even want my kids’ rooms to be pictured on our MLS listing when we sold our last house…what does that tell you?! Anyway, I don’t understand, not for one single second, why someone would leave negative comments about something. I read your blog and many others for inspiration. You and the others that I read daily INSPIRE ME….plain and simple. If I don’t care for the content of the post; I don’t read any further. But, do I return the next day to see what’s going on and what that post is? You bet I do. The blogs I read are important to me. I feel like I know you (and not in a creepy way) and that we’re all friends. Enough babbling by me; just THANK YOU for putting yourself out there and for sharing all that you do!
Emily, your blog is a daily read on bloglovin for me. I do comment now and then and love your Saturday 6. The comments above are testimonials to your continuation of your blog. Bless you and your family.
I love your blog Emily! I really look forward to your saturday 6 especially. You are one of the first blogs I ever found and have to be honest one of the few I actually save to read when I have no time.
Thanks for all your effort.
I love your blog Emily and feel bad that I haven’t commented until now! I look forward to your posts about anything. Your kids are adorable and I am fascinated by anything and everything that goes into raising five kids since I don’t have my own yet. :) You also have a great way of writing your sense of humor into the blog that I love. And of course I like to see decorating and home updates. I follow you on Instagram and enjoy updates there too. Keep up the great work!
Great post Emily! I can totally sympathize with everything you said.
Doing a “first” today, Emily – writing in on two different blogs, yours and YHL! I eagerly read your blog each time it pops into my inbox (many blogs, if I have no time, I just delete for the day – yours? Never. Really.). I love your style. .the “realness” of your sharing. .the quiet testimony.. Keep your blog, if you at all can, and share when you can. Don’t let us, your readers, put you into any kind of uncomfortable box. Be who you gotta be, and those of us who are your true fans, will follow whenever you write and share.
Keep up the good work. You have an amazing eye for style and I enjoy seeing what you are don’t over morning coffee before the kids get up!
I talk about your blog so much that my decorator thought you were actually a friend of mine! I was SUPER excited when you used Shoji White and Urbane Bronze because those were colors I had already used in my own house. It IS a lot of work to blog. I send out emails to my family detailing humorous incidents from my family’s life. Frequently, someone says, “You should have a blog!” I realize how time consuming it is and I also realize that no one can be funny enough frequently enough — not even me. Thanks for raking your kids’ stuff out of the way long enough to share pictures of your beautiful home. I look forward to each and every post!
Emily,
I’m one of those readers that quickly reads through the blogs I follow. I very rarely comment and never read through others’ comments, just because I feel like I have limited time to spend on the computer (I recently returned to work after all my children were in school). I do regret that I haven’t commented every once in a while just to let you know that I appreciate your blog and the work and heart you put into it. I chose the blogs I read based not only on the content of the blog, but also because of the type of person writing the blog. In other words, even if the blog has lots of beautiful pictures and lots of good ideas, I don’t tend to follow them unless something about the writer pulls me in. I love your blog – I love your design style and your writing. Most of all, I love that your warmth, faith, and love for your family comes across in your posts. I absolutely don’t mind any ads or anything that might help you financially in your blog. I’m just thankful you choose to share your talent with all of us. Thank you for what you do :).
I just found your blog a few weeks ago and it’s wonderful! You have great taste and I love your style. Thank you for sharing!
I feel badly for all the times I’ve thought good things but didn’t post a comment–bloggers need love too!! I love your blog and I visit you everyday. Totally bummed about John and Sherry but even more bummed that bloggers get such crappy feedback from those anonymous posters/commenters. I appreciate your posts and LOVE your blog. Please don’t go away!!
Yours is one of three blogs I check almost daily. I love your ideas and your “approachable” design sense. You are so creative and have a gift for making everything you touch shine. I would happily give you free reign to do anything in my home (and I can’t say that even for many of the superstar TV designers). Your time is valuable, and I hope you are able to bring in an income that compensates you for your time, energy, and attention to this blog! I really enjoy it! So thank you!
Hi Emily, I just want to say that I love you and look SO forward to reading what you have to say EVERYDAY….for years! I would be devestated if you decided to leave us…but would also understand. Thank you for sharing your feelings with us. You are amazing!! xo
Like many out there I actually find myself missing the daily dose of happy that John and Sherry distributed each day. I do feel that their break from blogging is because they probably bit off more than they could chew which happens to many people when fame comes knocking at the door. Blogging is a job and I do not understand why bloggers continue to defend the fact that they are earning $ from it. That part of blogging should never be addressed..if you read a blog with too many ads and sponsored posts you can always unsubscribe. But, like any job, you also have the right to quit like John and Sherry. It just makes it more painful because there are so many of their “co-workers” who will miss them on a daily basis.
I am a paid blogger in that I write blogs for many people in the design industry who do not have time or ability to write their own. I also write my own blog although it suffers due to lack of time. Blogging is a business that is going to be around for a very long time as part of anyone’s social media campaign and if readers do not like the fact that someone is making money off the blog they can read something else. It may sound harsh but it is reality. So please continue to write your blog, which I have enjoyed for many years, try to ignore the negative nellies and I hope that you and other bloggers stop defending the fact that you are paid for the work you do. Few people work for free. That’s just my two cents worth that comes from wisdom of age and experience.
I need to get better about leaving comments – I, too, am often reading them on my phone whenever I get a free minute! Definitely enjoy all of your work. Great post, today :)
Thought this was a great post! Thanks for discussing the world of blogging from a behind the scenes perspective. Also really appreciated you mentioning YHL– sad to see them take a hiatus as well. Know that enjoy your blog a lot, and appreciate your design sense!
Hi Emily,
Only several months ago did I discover home decor/lifestyle blogs. They have opened a whole new world for me! I live in your wonderful city, shop in the antiques mall where you have a booth and so enjoy your fresh, authentic style. It is always exciting to see your blog pop up in my email.
I am a teacher in my early sixties and find it interesting that my favorite blogs are written by young mothers who are the age of my own children. Both of my children and their spouses have built new homes in the last year. I have shared your blog and ideas with them. As a teacher, I know what it is like to work really hard and never hear a “thank you.”
Please keep sharing your wonderful ideas. As for those with the negative comments, did their mothers never tell them if they couldn’t say something nice, they should just say nothing at all?
Thank you!
Ren
I truly appreciate and am grateful for your website. It is my little piece of happiness in the morning along with my cup of coffee before I face my day. I used to love to decorate and recreate in my home. I unfortunately went through some years between children, work, and life, where I found less time to do the things I love in my house. I read the article about you in BG&G and was so inspired by your style and philosophy. You inspired my creative spirit again, and I began to turn my house upside down with projects. (much to the dismay of my husband at times:) I think I felt that with limited resources or time, I was not able to achieve the look I wanted in my house. Since reading your blog, I have begun to transform our home even without spending a lot of money. I appreciate your inspiration. Thank you from a Midwest girl who has learned to love her house again!
Oh my goodness! Makes me wish I’d commented what I’m really thinking with every amazing/lovely post you’ve done! I love your work, and check it daily if I can. I also love going to the Catawba River Antique mall and in total stalker status, I wonder if I’ll ever run into you, then I try to figure out what I would say. You’re like a celebrity for me so I’m pretty sure I’d freeze and run the other direction! haha
Keep up the good work! If you do stop blogging, please keep your blog up so we can keep referencing back to all your wonderful posts!
So funny! If you run into me at the booth, I’ll be the one in the back corner moving furniture and sweating bullets!
I enjoyed reading this post. It cane from the heart. I love seeing all types of posts from you. You are one of my inspirations for design and family.
woo! you’ve got a lot of great commenters here- I just wanted to drop a line, because I haven’t, to say you are still my go to when I’m wrestling with an idea or a corner of my house- your working with series is my favorite. My middle baby is your twins’ age- can you BELIEVE how big they are??? and I had another baby this past May (yep, 3 days before middle boy’s 2nd bday, poor thing) so I dropped commenting on posts I read and enjoy. I think you are wonderful, your family is wonderful, I have learned so much from you, and I thank you. =)
That said- if your ever need a loooong break…I totally get it. 5 kids, lady. I’ve only got 3. That’s the real work lol.
God bless,
Sarah
Thanks for the behind-the-scenes view. I can’t imagine the kind of negativity popular bloggers must have to wade through, so I certainly admire what you guys do! For what it’s worth, you do a fantastic job and I frequently come here for inspiration (or just a mental break from mommyhood). Keep up the good work!
I do so appreciate all the hard work you put into your posts. You are so creative , and I never miss your genuinely honest, down-to-earth, to-the-point posts. I am a navy blue fan too. And despite the fact that you are a mom of 5 adorable children, wife to Mr. DH & an entrepreneur, you still found time to answer a recent email of mine. ( You have so much on your plate already I felt guilty even asking the question.) Waiting for that navy blue sectional post and, btw, purchasing that front door very soon. Thanks, Emily, you are the best!
That sectional post has been started and will come soon! :)
I love your blog and have been reading it for several years now. It’s a happy corner of the internet that I look forward to reading each day :)
Your style and ideas are a constant source of inspiration. I love your mix of home and family posts and your tone is kind, confident and fun.
Hi Emily,
Back when I was pregnant with my fourth child I googled “sibling room share” and your post on “how many kids can you cram in a room came up. I read it, loved it, and started following you ever since. Our little ones are about the same age and I really had/have a lot of respect for what you do and I enjoy your posts tremendously. Receiving an e-mail from your blog is a day brightener and I really appreciate your hard work. Your honesty is one of your best attributes.
Hi Emily! It was very enlightening to read your post today and I’m so thankful that you shared. I have been following your blog for sometime now and I adore all that you do. I also feel a special kinship with you as I have bigger family (4 boys!) including a set of twins. Until now, I have never thought to comment on your posts. To be honest, I thought that I didn’t have much to add and that my frivolous reply would be a waste of your time to read. I realize now that you need our feedback, however frivolous, to know that you are doing a good job! Please consider this comment as a ‘thank you’ times 1,000!!!
I love your blog! Not only the decorating, but seeing those gorgeous kiddos! I blogged for about a year, but was discouraged by the fact that the only comments I got were from my mom! I’m thinking about trying again, but doing it for me instead of everyone in blog land that don’t even know I exist.
Thanks for all your hard work! Know that it is appreciated by many & screw the rest! ; )
I just wanted to say hi too. I am probably a first time commenter here as well. And like many others have said, I often don’t take the time to comment or even read thru comments on blogs. I come to hear the voice/perspective of the blogger and too see their work. Thank-you for writing this article. I am so happy to see a popular blogger address the Young House Love hiatus. For me it was out of the blue. I was shocked when they took a break and by all of the mean comments when they requested feedback. I really couldn’t believe people have a problem with their work!
I have a small blog that I rarely post to, and mostly use it to keep track of my favorite blogs. I have long enjoyed your work and your writing. I was just thinking with the YHL hiatus, I better let bloggers know how much I enjoy their blogs if I want them to stay around. I don’t read the newspaper. I don’t do Facebook. There’s not much on TV I like to see, and I rarely check my Instagram. So if my favorite blogs disappear, then what am I going to do?!
Keep doing what you do. You are one of the best! I do hope bloggers see that there are more who love and support their voice than those who don’t.
Emily I love your blog….it is on my favorites. I read it every night before going to bed. Thank you for sharing your family and home. You are real and makes me feel better when my life is not always perfect.
Emily,
It’s always shocking to me that people (adult people) can be so cruel to others, especially to people whose goal is simply to share and to inspire. So cruel, that now they are leaving their passion behind, YHL.
Just wanted to say I love your blog! I didn’t even know decorating bloggers were a thing until my friend came across your daughter’s pink, polka dotted bedroom from your other house. She copied it beautifully! And now, EmilyAClark is a household term around here! Your ideas and bravery in your decorating are so helpful to me. You have a special place in my decorating heart because you are the first one I discovered. And you were so nice to reply when I asked for help with my daughter’s room (at the time I didn’t realize what a decorating rock star you were or I would have never been brave enough to email you :-). I love my house and how it has “shaped up” with your inspiration. One of your Instagram followers once called you and others, “Friends I’ve never met.” I agree totally and wish you all the best in the world with your blog and your sweet family!!
I just want to thank you each of you who left a comment today. I expected that this post might start a healthy discussion about blogging, in general. I did not expect the overwhelming response of kindness from so many of you. If I ever get down on this little job of mine, I’ll come back and read these comments :) I am blessed by you. Thanks.
Emily, you have been one of my very favorite reads for a long while now. You have an amazing talent. Thank you for sharing it with all of us! Keep up the great work!
I have been a constant reader for many years now, but a very infrequent commenter. Sorry about that. Despite my relative silence, I wanted to tell you how much I enjoy your blog and look forward to new posts. Thank you.
hello emily,
just wanting to throw my hat in the ring too! been reading your blog for years with much enjoyment. you inspire me with pretty things and great ideas and yet, there is such a down-to-earth feeling that makes me relax ! thank you for sharing!
Love your blog, and others but feel shy for commenting… Funny how that is…
I’ve never left a comment here before, but feel the need to after reading this post. Your blog has given me many hours of enjoyment. Of course I wouldn’t do everything the same way. None of us are clones. But why can’t people appreciate another’s taste, even when it isn’t their own? I’m 62 years old and have never been very good at “decorating” or staging my rooms, and when my children were small, I was happy just to try to keep the house clean….But I enjoy the gifts and talents of those who ARE good at these things. Please don’t get discouraged. Sometimes it seems like the whole world is angry, and the time I spend reading your blog and a few other favorites takes me to a saner, happier place. Thank you for doing that, and I hope that a few (hopefully just a few) mean, angry people won’t spoil it for you……Again, thank you for sharing your lovely home, your beautiful family, and your creative gifts with us. Have a blessed day!
Hi dear Emily: longtime reader, infrequent commenter. I will try to change that, not just here but elsewhere. I really appreciate your work, your thoughts ( I loved the “Making the best of…” series on working with your house’s problems, so useful and clever!), your honesty. Warm wishes to you and your sweet family.
P.s. If other bloggers made commenting as easy as you do, I’d have less of an excuse for avoiding it! I don’t always want to log into a comments section with a Google ID or other platform identifier. Your setup is much simpler. I do miss your blogroll, though.
I read your blog all the time and love it. I don’t know where you get the time or the energy to do what you do but as long as you keep going I’ll keep reading. Keep up the good work :-)
Do comments help the business side of blogs? I always assumed they were just a place for people to put in their 2 cents, which I hardly ever do. If bloggers get rated, evaluated or get more $$ based on # of commenters I would make sure to add comments. I read a number of blogs, yours and John and Sherry’s included,- have for a long time. Never commented on either. Just figured it was no big deal. You give us so much of yourselves its the least we can do, if it helps.
I guess some companies might look for “reader engagement” but overall, I just think comments help a blogger have a better feel for how a post is going over. (And, it helps to know there are real people out there enjoying what you do! No matter what your stats say, it’s hard to believe sometimes that it’s more than your parents reading…)
Emily, this was great and very enlightening. For a long time, I had considered a blog but for some reason didn’t go that route, thinking of how much work it would be. Keep up the good work for as long as you want to only… :)
I loved reading this post. I never think to comment on blog posts…I just think how busy you must be and I don’t want to take up any of your time. Yours was one of the first blogs that I discovered, and the first I read every day. It’s the only blog that I haven’t dropped from my daily read because I love the content, your style, but most of all your authenticity. Anyway, thank you for what you do, for the inspiration and most of all for keeping it real.
Excellent post and very well written! I frequent both your blog and John and Sherry’s and always enjoy the content. I have great respect for John and Sherry’s decision. I do hope they return as I so enjoy their light hearted approach to life and DIY. Thanks and keep up the great work! You are very inspiring to many.
Great post, I’d be lying if I didn’t say I’ve thought of stopping for a while. It is a lot of work and people expect so much sometimes. I applaud them for stopping and you for this brave post. oxox
Hi Emily,
I don’t typically comment on any blogs I read, but after your post yesterday (which I read on my phone in car while waiting in line!) I felt compelled to stop by and comment. Your blog consistantly has readable, real, simple ideas that I really enjoy. The content you feature is sometimes not the biggest and most dramatic changes, but that is what I love- Something that I could accomplish on my own and for a reasonable price. I look forward to your posts every day because your style and content are 1) what I want my house to feel like and 2) easily attainable during a babies nap or two. Thank you for what you do, and for being an inspiration to the rest of the world:)
There is no doubt there is something in the air this year with blogging, it’s just a weird feeling I can’t put my finger on. I stopped blogging for 3 months this year after blogging for almost 5 years. Blogging was something fun for me I love writing and I love interior design but suddenly I was getting sent lots of offers (that were just strange) I was getting mean emails and it just got to me, I felt pressure that I had never had and was not making anywhere near the amount of money to deal with some of it. After taking a break I’ve decided to write when the whim strikes me. Luckily blogging was just a way to show off my home and let my local clients see what I do in my home I can’t imagine the pressure if I was some big time blogger and this was my actual job. There is no pleasing everyone but some of the comments they deal with is crazy. I’ve always thought I would never tell someone to their face their house was ugly or tell them I like it all but the mirror etc. so I would never comment if I didn’t like something, I’d just move onto the next blog. Honestly I don’t think my opinion on someone else’s space is all that relevant especially when they are not asking for advice, they are simply showing off something they are proud of. Then the flip side is there are people who do want to engage and have constructive criticism, like with YHL I read some of the comments and many of the comments were people saying the blog had changed and they noticed and really they were saying the things John and Sherry were both already aware of but the fans jumped all over it and defended them in the same way they accuse the negative people of. All of it is unsettling to me. Just my two cents! (:
Emily, I love to read your blog for good ideas and because you write so well and so honestly. Your home is beautiful and I have “borrowed” so many ideas from you in the few years I’ve been blog-reading. I was really touched by this post–not just your honesty but your compassion for other bloggers and the cost of putting your whole life on display. The line between having something to offer (your design skills, your humor, your journey as a wife and mother) and hanging on the clothesline blowing in the wind while people take potshots for their own weird reasons is a Very Thin Line. You really seem to hold that line without having to load up a pellet gun and stand guard. And that is such a great skill to have!! Blogging is a whole new universe of entrepreneurial talent and I guess it is as open to dysfunction as everything else–just that it is so public in a way that is new for so many.
As pastor of a church I sometimes (!) have to reign myself in when posting on social media and try to keep it real but not snarky, and also not to overshare. Much of that learning I can credit you and a few other bloggers with teaching me by example. Of course there are days when I want post something about how refreshing a gin and tonic would be NOW but…at 11 in the morning? LOL. Thank you for your hard work to make life, motherhood, decorating and cheering for Kentucky (we are UCONN fans) look fun and normal.
A grateful reader,
Peggy Sullivan
Rev. Peggy–You are one of my favorite commenters and encouragers. Thank you :) We’re all trying to figure this out, I suppose!
Emily,
Thanks for a great post! I wholeheartedly agree with everything you’ve said. I too, was upset to learn about John and Sherry’s decision to stop blogging. As a new blogger, I find it so discouraging to think that it was reader criticism that brought them to that decision. I read your blog regularly, and I hope that you continue to share your great work!
I read your blog a lot and enjoy it very much.
There is such a culture on blogs to comment with praise on what’s been written or shown that I believe it makes the less common critical comment stand out even more. Since comments are moderated here and on YHL, no one can be sure that you/they aren’t being harassed, but it seems that overall the comments are pleasant and I think that’s the thing to focus on, though I understand it’s hard.
I love your blog and definitely don’t tell you that enough. Thanks for all the work you put into it. It’s among my top 3 favs. YHL was as well and I’m sad to see it go even for a short time. I hope they come back, and I think they will.
Emily, your blog is the only one I read regularly. Your ideas inspire me!
Emily, you are a class act, as always! And I love your writing style, especially in serious posts like this. I’ve been a reader from your earliest days and, although I rarely comment, I am always reading!
xo,
Erin
Found your blog years ago via The Nester and have been a faithful reader ever since. And I even won a giveaway on your blog. Anyway, I have always enjoyed your posts/variety and positive tone. Perfect balance for me.
It is such a shame to hear about YHL. Its sad that there are websites out there devoted to criticizing people and blogs. As the saying goes, if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. I agree that bloggers should get paid for the work they put into their job. Sponsored posts can be a little annoying when the person isn’t genuine, but I wouldn’t make a blanket statement and say all sponsored posts are bad. Keep up the good work!
Reading someone’s true thoughts on blogging (pros and cons) is refreshing. I’ve been blogging for years and my reach is not huge, so sometimes I wonder if all the time and stress is worth it. Then I meet someone new who says they follow my blog and my enthusiasm is renewed again.
I applaud you for what you have created on Emily. A. Clark. Your blog has been a decorating go-to for me for years. Your style is so classic and so chic. Keep up the good work! I look forward to receiving your posts in my inbox every day.
Cheers! Sarah
I too enjoy your blog! I should comment more on many blogs but keep up the good work!
Well said girl. There are so many fine lines that can be crossed with blogging. Too many adds….too much about yourself….too many sponsored post….
But I think you just have to be authentic [which you are!] and honest. I am down to 2 times a week and happy with that right now….but it could change any minute:)
You keep at it cause I love my dose of EC on a regular basis!
I love your posts. I am sorry I have never told you before. It is like motherhood, you should stand over us and say “what should you say?” and you would hear a giant THANK YOU
I just love your blog, have been reading it for over a year. You do a great job with it all – thank you for putting yourself out there and sharing your ideas and your life.
I love your blog and never miss a post.
First, I want to say that I love your blog. Secondly, it seems to me that a lot of home/decorating/organizing blogs that I read that have been around for 3 or more years have lost a lot of steam. I cannot imagine trying to find something creative to write about 5 days a week. Some blogs then turn to other bloggers as weekly contributions, or other interests such as a weekly fashion show of what they are wearing as “filler”. For YHL they felt that they needed that break. I think some other blogs (not yours!!) should probably do the same, but just can’t come to grips with that decision and then get burnt out.
Just wanted to pop in with the other faithful readers and say that I really enjoy your blog. Thank you for inspiring me and putting a smile on my face, it’s why I will continue to come back!
I hope I’m not too late to comment on this post and for this lengthy reply. I discovered decorating blogs just a few years ago and yours was one of the first I fell in love with! I usually do not leave comments thinking “how can a busy mom/blogger have a chance to read all these comments -or- I was afraid my comment would seem dumb. Today, I just couldn’t pass up the opportunity. I wanted to let you know that your blog is more than beautiful décor and paint colors. For me personally, it has been inspiration (I love your style), a creative outlet when I needed one, reassurance everything isn’t perfect behind the scenes and even a just “pick-me-up when life wasn’t being fair (which has been a lot lately). Your post also is a resonates with many who question if what they devote their time to every day really matters. I hope this reply can answer that a little for you today. I feel sorry for the rude/disgusting people that leave negative comments on blogs. Lets just leave it at that.
So….Thank Emily for inspiring me (and I know I speak for other readers) with what you do & the hoops you must jump through to get it all done! you are amazing & hope you continue to blog or at least share your talent for a long, long time:)
So well said Emily! I’ve been at it a long time too (5+ years) and I validate your “blogging is WORK” point. I have learned it is SO important to take breaks (I take a week off every three to four months) just to go offline and refresh my creativity. Blogging day in and day out takes it’s toll on those of us who do it as our job. Coming up with daily inspiration is very challenging and writing about your home or designs takes courage. I am thankful for your honesty with this post and you know I love your style!
Always a fan,
Kate
“its toll” – Oh yeah, perfect grammar? Also a challenge. :)
I need to follow your lead on taking more breaks. I think it’s good for all of us!
This post resonates with me for so many reasons. After health scares with both a family member and a best friend, my husband and I have contemplated many changes to our current life. As usually happens, when faced with uncertainty, you look at how you want to do things differently in the future. For me, I’ve vowed to tell my family and friends every day (or every time I see them) that I love them. I enjoy reading blogs every night before I go to bed, it relaxes me and puts pretty pictures in my head before I go to sleep. Bloggers put in many hours of hard work to do something for people they may never meet. Why am I not putting more effort into letting them know that I appreciate it? I love your blog, I think you’re extremely talented, your family is adorable, and I so appreciate the happiness you add to my life! Thank you!
I have to admit I got rude on a blog lately. A blogger that blogs infrequently about her DIY home remodeling projects and her family’s budget plans had a comment that basically said she was not creative at all, her stuff was ugly, that she was trying to act rich. It was weird. Along with a few other people, I responded with reasonable “why would you say that?” comment. The mean person escalated and then I took it personally and got angry. It was just stupid and I wish the blogger would delete my comment. I have been reading this blog since she started and I think she’s just wonderful and I felt as if someone was attacking my own daughter or best friend. I’m really sorry about it all. I wonder how often this kind of thing happens. Blogging has to be incredibly time consuming, sometimes I kinda worry about these little families.
I’m late to the party with my comment but the reason I keep coming back to your blog every week is authenticity. Your style, opinions, observations and commentary support this. It’s almost like a big relief when I click on your blog because I know it won’t take forever to read the post and there will be something interesting, whether it’s one picture that captures my attention or a humorous story that you share. Thank you for blogging.
It makes me sad that so many are experiencing issues and burnout right now. It seems as though blogging has gotten so much more complicated, people are less kind, and the demands are so high. Thanks for sharing what you do, I always appreciate it, even if I don’t get the chance to say so!
I was lucky to find your blog via bloglovin, and while I intend to catch up with it further this was the first post that caught my eye. I support everything you have written, and yet have a somewhat differing opinion. There are so many responses here that I hope I’m not repeating anyone else’s comment, but would like to add that as much as I am bummed that there is this “trend” of rudeness on the part of some readers I wonder if too much attention may be called out to it. There seems to be a growing trend among bloggers for posting about what the problem is, but very few define for readers what they believe the solution is. I have only read one so far, by Elle I think, that spelled out the difference between outright rude remarks (often one word adjectives like “gross”) versus constructive criticisms such as “it’s not my taste” or “I would have tried” that they say they welcome. I’d like to think I didn’t need the clarification, but I am nonetheless grateful to see someone do more than just stating a problem, which no matter how polite is still technically complaining.
At the end of it all I wish readers would express their dissatisfaction politely by quietly walking away so to speak, no one is being forced to read these are they? And in the off chance that a blogger is specifically asking for feed back, how about just thanking those that take the time to do so, and ignoring those who don’t seem capable of doing it nicely. Chances are they may not even realize how terrible they sound, and if they do they may not care. I personally spend considerable time editing my comments before I post them, and usually never get a response from the blogger, so while it’s never my intention to offend I may never know if I do by mistake. It’s okay, I understand that at a certain point it could become a full time job in itself to respond to every comment. I truly hope this problem will stop getting so much attention, it’s distracting, and it feels like a few bad apples are spoiling the fun. Thank you for the chance to add my opinion, and I truly look forward to reading more of your blog.
Thanks, Caroline. I know what you’re saying. I’m afraid in John and Sherry’s case that it was more than just some rude comments (this is just me speculating), but personal attacks against them both on and off their own site. I think a few rude comments are probably par for the course when you blog, but some are taking it to a whole new level. I’m glad I haven’t had to deal with much of that and hope I don’t have to. I’m happy to live in my own little blogging bubble :)
Thanks for this post Emily. I’ve been feeling the same as you, about YHL and about blogging. It is work, and while it always has been work, the negativity can bring up feelings of “what am I doing this for”?
I think Kate/Centsational Girl had a great idea… we need to take more breaks! Do you remember the days when you’d line up posts and guest posts for those times you’d be away? Things have changed ;) I’ve thought about quitting blogging but I would truly miss putting my thoughts on paper, sharing my projects, and hearing from readers. I hope you continue to keep blogging. Your posts are always thoughtful and informative.
Thank you, Jen. Yes, things have definitely changed :)
I read John & Sherry’s post and feel happy for them that they are taking a (well deserved) break, but sad for them for what they have to deal with with in terms of their visibility and negative comments. I still enjoy your blog so much- you’ve hit a nice balance with showcasing your talent, home, family, and thoughts on issues we all care about. I think about writing these kinds of posts, then get too scared to stir the pot. Your post was spot on.
Beautifully put, Emily — I’ve been wrestling with this whole issue myself over the past several months and have no idea what’s in store. All I know is I love visiting here and am happy to call you “friend”. Much love, Heidi
Emily, I enjoyed your post today. Visiting it because of my friend from “Chatfield Court” included a link in her blog. It is interesting to hear about the behind the scenes. I always wondered where all bloggers got their energy! I have an Etsy shop and work full-time and that’s enough for me!
I always imagined most bloggers to be very creative people and that they want to share their creativity with others. I appreciate the ideas they give and find it helpful to see their views for decorating. Many have huge homes and I have a smaller home, but although I think I relate to the bloggers with smaller homes I still love viewing the bloggers with larger homes, just because it’s pleasing to the eye.
Like everyone else, there are great rewards with my job and there are times when I ask, why am I doing this?
Dee made some good points and I have to agree with her on many things.
Glad I clicked on the link. Most interesting read!
Emily……You are right….such great thoughts. Thanks for being honest. Our lives are so busy, that we take everything for granted….just like you said – catching a glimpse of a blog while waiting at a drive thru….Sad to say, we don’t take time to say thank you….to say…great job! We are trying to absorb and figure out how we can find time and do some of the amazing things that you have done to your home. We just don’t stop and think that a real person is struggling to find time for a shower just like us. Thank you – thank you – we really do appreciate you and all you share! Now, you will be bombarded by those of us who want you to feel appreciated and you won’t have time to read them…xoxo
Dear Emily – And yes you are dear to me! I so appreciate this post because I can’t imagine trying to blog. But I need to tell you that several years ago I discovered decorating blogs. It was wonderful to finally find a replacement for the decorating magazines that had disappeared! But I went overboard and was trying to follow at least 75 blogs. Now I’ve gotten realistic and am down to following about 20. You are one of my favorites!! I appreciate what you do and how hard it must be. Love to you and your precious family – Cathy.
Thanks, Cathy :)
I am not a blogger. But I love others who are creative and brave enough to do it. And I never comment, although I often enjoy, dream, and unwind looking at pretty spaces and tidbits the blog world has to offer. I prefer to read a blog over a magazine because they are real moms and people rather than a fake-hyper edited version of life. Thanks, Kristen
Hi Emily, I really appreciate your article on blogging itself! I wish more bloggers would do the same. I have recently started my own blog and had no idea what I was getting into! It’s incredible the amount of time and work that goes into it. I still have no idea how to do it all. All I can say is there are really people out there who are inspired and create wonderful homes for there family from all the work that goes into these blogs! Keep up the good work!